Difficult people get under my skin

Have Hope · Apr 02, 2020 at 04:42 PM

So the difficult personality type I am speaking of is the kind who accuses YOU of being exactly what and who they are guilty of being. Pure PROJECTIONS of their own issues that they are unwilling and incapable of admitting to... It could be a personality disorder... very very possible and very very likely.

Have Hope · Apr 02, 2020 at 04:49 PM

Unhappy, miserable people try to inflict their misery onto others and basically, try to harm another and bring them down to their own level of misery. That's most sad and most pathetic. I see it all too often. Luckily, I see through it and these types of difficult people have no way of bringing me down to their level of misery.

Have Hope · Apr 02, 2020 at 05:20 PM

AzulOscuro · Apr 02, 2020 at 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Have Hope

You put a guide of toxic people and I’m surprised the first point is the one I was gonna mention you in my reply.
A big red DARK flag is when someone talks badly about others and much more when they do it in their backs.
I can’t deal with this kind of people. For a single reason. It’s not because they are gonna talk also badly about me, that they will. It’s because they lack of the minimal sense of loyalty.

Have Hope · Apr 02, 2020 at 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

You put a guide of toxic people and I’m surprised the first point is the one I was gonna mention you in my reply.
A big red DARK flag is when someone talks badly about others and much more when they do it in their backs.
I can’t deal with this kind of people. For a single reason. It’s not because they are gonna talk also badly about me, that they will. It’s because they lack of the minimal sense of loyalty.

Oh yes, and backstab in all sorts of negative ways. That's the kind of person I personally cannot stand, just like you're saying, and I know of two such acquaintances who are this way with me and others. It's really sad, and not a positive way to interact with people in the least, and it only makes THEM look bad, no one else!

Difficult people get under my skin

divine1966 · Apr 02, 2020 at 05:53 PM

I am always suspicious of people who talk about themselves all the time. Self absorbed so to speak.

Now if it’s a therapy session that they pay for then it’s fine, but unless they pay me who has the time.

I once briefly dated a guy years ago, I couldn’t keep going out with him as he was a mess and I ended it, so when we dated I could put my phone down and he’d still be talking!

Most of his one sided conversations were about his boss, his “evil” mother and his “terrible” sister. Of course he was a victim and everyone was to blame.

So his sister (lovely woman btw) invited us and the bunch of family to a restaurant and in the middle of the dinner she says to him loudly “not everything is about you” because he’d not shut up going on on on about himself and how great he was snd completely monopolized the entire dinner party .

I about fell of the chair when she said that. No one was even surprised. The whole family was fed up with him, they are nice people. I still run into them sometimes in the area.

Have Hope · Apr 02, 2020 at 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

I am always suspicious of people who talk about themselves all the time. Self absorbed so to speak.

Now if it’s a therapy session that they pay for then it’s fine, but unless they pay me who has the time.

I once briefly dated a guy years ago, I couldn’t keep going out with him as he was a mess and I ended it, so when we dated I could put my phone down and he’d still be talking!

Most of his one sided conversations were about his boss, his “evil” mother and his “terrible” sister. Of course he was a victim and everyone was to blame.

So his sister (lovely woman btw) invited us and the bunch of family to a restaurant and in the middle of the dinner she says to him loudly “not everything is about you” because he’d not shut up going on on on about himself and how great he was.

I about fell of the chair when she said that. Lol

Oh yes.. the self absorbed personality!!! I know several of these types of people!

I went on a date once with a musician a few years back. He talked non-stop, literally, for three hours straight all about himself, his life, his life goals, his work and his recent divorce. I could not get a word in edge-wise! Granted, after that, it was the one and only date we had. Then we later on had a few friendly chats over text, and it was all the same... walls of endless text, all about HIM. Never once did he ask me how I was doing, and if he did, he would respond only briefly and then turn the conversation right back to himself. It was most maddening. Suffice it to say, that lasted a short while, with only a few such texts before I finally said bye bye and stopped communicating altogether.

It is sooo annoying when all someone can discuss is themselves, and most especially maddening when they are clueless about how bored and annoyed the other person becomes!!!!! This type of person has zero personal insight and zero emotional social intelligence.

Have Hope · 06:11 PM

In contrast to the difficult personality:

Difficult people get under my skin

And the toxic personality does these things - a few different acquaintances come to mind when I look at this list.

Difficult people get under my skin

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Have Hope Wise Elder Member Since Dec 2017 Location: Eastern, USA Posts: 9,081 (SuperPoster!) 6 3,626 hugs given	Apr 02, 2020 at 05:20 PM #63 __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes

Have Hope Wise Elder Member Since Dec 2017 Location: Eastern, USA Posts: 9,081 (SuperPoster!) 6 3,626 hugs given	Apr 02, 2020 at 05:59 PM #68 In contrast to the difficult personality: And the toxic personality does these things - a few different acquaintances come to mind when I look at this list. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes Last edited by Have Hope; Apr 02, 2020 at 06:11 PM..

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