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Magnate
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Apr 09, 2020 at 09:44 AM
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I've told him no he doesn't accept it. He's starting to get to me. I thought i was rid of him he's like a boomerang always coming back. We dated 3 years ago.
It was good til he did one thing that rocked me to my soul. He apologized said he wouldn't do anything to hurt me. But he already did. He broke up with me on Valentine's Day 3 years ago. Now he's seen what's out there and wants me back. We were kind of moving too fast when we dated before. I think the pressure is what brought us down. My friends and family don't know we've been talking but wouldn't like it. I kind of want to give him another chance. But I already know I don't want to marry him so I feel like moving on is best. But there's a spark between us. __________________ Son: 14, 12/15/2009 R.I.P.  Daughter: 20  Diagnosis: Bipolar with Psychosis. Latuda 100 mgs. |
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Apr 09, 2020 at 10:05 AM
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It wasn’t good then, and it won’t be good now. Sparks don’t mean much if you repeatedly have sparks with wrong men
I don’t think it’s up to your family and friends who you are talking to though. Not sure why they even need to know |
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Apr 09, 2020 at 11:48 AM
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He broke up with you on Valentine's Day?
Every time you consider getting back with him, think about how that made you feel. |
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Apr 09, 2020 at 12:28 PM
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In addition only after he looked around for 3 years and didn’t find anyone, he thinks you are good enough to come back to. You can do better than being his second choice because he can’t find anyone
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Apr 10, 2020 at 12:23 AM
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Better to stay single than to settle for being last choice for someone.. You deserve better.
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Apr 10, 2020 at 12:39 AM
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You told him no and he's still coming back. So either you're giving him mixed messages or he's not respecting your boundaries.
If you don't plan on marrying him then I'd block him. The worst that could happen if you don't is find out you're pregnant.. and he's changed his mind again. I'm not sure there's sparks or if you're liking the fact that he's "wanting" you after he broke your heart. I've been in a similar situation (20yrs ago) and it turned out the guy wasn't interested in a serious relationship with me.. just sex. Umm, why bother? There's many fish in the sea, gawd. So luckily for me, I said no thanks and moved on without regrets. He broke my heart once.. not twice. Trust me. |
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Apr 10, 2020 at 06:31 AM
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So he got a look around for couple years, is probably lonely and decided to dig through the rolodex to see what ex he could dig up? That makes you second choice, as others have said. Don't let him worm his way. He broke up with you once before, and most likely would do it again. Breaking up on Valentines Day is very hurtful. Why go back to someone from the past who hurt you, especially if you know you wouldn't marry him? Ditch him and move forwards, not backwards. There's a reason why he's an ex. Keep him an ex and just flat out say "No thank you". Then move on with your life. You deserve far better.
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Apr 10, 2020 at 11:46 AM
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Lol @Have Hope, rollodex of exes
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Apr 12, 2020 at 08:24 PM
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Breaking up with you on Valentines day was done to heighten the effects of the breakup. He's an ***. Forget him.
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Apr 15, 2020 at 04:06 AM
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Is this worming in happening now during the pandemic? Like is he showing up to your house or work?
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Apr 18, 2020 at 03:26 PM
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No just texting.
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Apr 18, 2020 at 08:45 PM
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Block him. Sorry being blunt
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May 15, 2020 at 09:50 PM
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Yeah, block that ***.
On a valentine's day, gee... He totally deserves to be blocked. |
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