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Default May 10, 2020 at 03:22 PM
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I have said i stay away from women as i do not want to be used by them when they want something. But recently criminal behaviour in my apartment complexe leads to them approaching me to write the management. It suits me too as I want rid of the criminals too but as soon as they are finished they go back to their families. i knew they would but still feel a bit used. The caught me by surprise, I did not think they would approach me or else would have told them tocontact the police or management themselves


I miss my parents. I think society does not care about people except for happy people all of celebrations are for them


Days like mothers day is for people who still have them

I still text my friend who give me things but I am careful what i say

I do not much miss people much to be honest. Most are a pain in the arse full of themselves and know everything. I only want to have a girlfriend and am depressed a lot due not having. But women I meet are coupled, not interested or they are interested in me but I do not return this feeling.


I have to have a scan which may show a reason for my fatigue and if so it may be treatable
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Default May 11, 2020 at 04:53 PM
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...I did not think they would approach me or else would have told them tocontact the police or management themselves...
Hi LonelyMan.

Not to downplay your experiences at all, but perhaps those women did contact the management themselves but wanted other tenants in the building, yourself included, to contact the management, as well? With the idea being that the more tenants lodging complaints, the more likely action will be taken against the criminal element.

Just a thought.
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But recently criminal behaviour in my apartment complexe leads to them approaching me to write the management.
I'm curious what gender has anything to do with this scenario? I would think the tenants who took action and reached out to other tenants just happened to be women. They likely reached out to other female tenants, as well. Do you know that these women seeked you out, and only you, for "male" support? You mentioned they have families. Wouldn't that include husbands?

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Mother's day is to acknowledge the hard work moms do for their children.

I was at a local park yesterday where a family released several balloons into the air on behalf of their deceased mother. You can choose how to acknowledge a holiday, any way you want. It's not for "happy" people. It's for anyone who finds it relevant and meaningful in their life.

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I do not much miss people much to be honest. I only want to have a girlfriend and am depressed a lot due not having.
It doesn't sound like you respect women at all but want a girlfriend. I think it's your outlook you're undoubtedly projecting that's keeping you single. If you have issues with women, why have a girlfriend.. for your own self-fulfilling needs? I'm just wondering.
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Ms lady. They have husbands. The husbands know about the problem. Yes the women came to me, and only me to raise the issue officially, believe it or not. And as i said i did it because i want rid of these people too, the criminal type.

They did connect with other tenants male and female but came to me to contact management officially.

My attitudeto women them is due to my experience of being used when they are bored or want 'friends' to tell their trouble to. Please do not presume to tell me why i want a girlfriend or how i am with a girlfriend.you do not know me.

Just because i do not let people use me to pass their time does not mean i do not like or would not like someone who wanted me for me. People i meet are involved or else like the person i posted about before is not really attractive to me. I am restricted in going out much due to illness

Anyone who wants friends should join the girl guides. I respect people who respect me. People who come to you only when they want something are not friends. And they do not respect you. I may have to be alone. I do not have to be taken advantage of

Anyway it's with management and police now. So the ladies here can talk to them and i can bow out

I do not have family to go to a park with and raise balloons i have been unable to go to my folks grave. Too depressed . My point is all these days are for people who have and are advertised as such. When have you seen an advert for valentines for example feature a depressed person. Marketing only wants shiny happy people.

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Hi LonelyMan.

Not to downplay your experiences at all, but perhaps those women did contact the management themselves but wanted other tenants in the building, yourself included, to contact the management, as well? With the idea being that the more tenants lodging complaints, the more likely action will be taken against the criminal element.

Just a thought.
Hi. No they didn't contact management themselves. They did discuss it with othet males and female but asked me to make the official written complaint.

II is true that the more who complain the better and everyone has now. But they did come to me to make the first move.

I doubt this criminal type situation will arise again when it is solved but now i will be ready if it does as i am prepared for any other approach by people like them.

Management and police are on it now so i do not have to deal with these, 'friends'

I am not interested in women who are married or involved in a relationship as these are. Why would i be?? Why would I want to be friends with someone who sleeps with someone else and only come to me when they want something.

These women do not want to be with me on a Saturday night for example. And i am really not interested in them at all..

On a very cold evening in winter one who used to live here was visiting and was outside smoking when i arrived in the car park. She tried to engage me in conversation but i said hi and kept going. It was v cold and all she wanted was someone to talk to until her cigarette was gone and then she would be back inside with her husband. I don't want to engage with people like that.

I would not be so sly and superficial if i were smoking in the cold

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Default May 12, 2020 at 12:29 AM
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Yes the women came to me, and only me to raise the issue officially.
Ok, do you think they appreciate and trust how you handle important situations? Maybe they see you as that 'strong and silent' type.. which is a compliment.

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My attitude to women them is due to my experience of being used when they are bored or want 'friends' to tell their trouble to. Please do not presume to tell me why i want a girlfriend or how i am with a girlfriend.you do not know me.
To me it felt like you were generalizing women as a whole. Maybe I misread your post? I guess the take away is to establish boundaries from the get-go so people aren't taking advantage of you at all. We could all use some tweaking in this department, for sure. I don't know you at all. I'm just basing my feedback on what you've said.

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Just because i do not let people use me to pass their time does not mean i do not like or would not like someone who wanted me for me.
No, I wasn't suggesting that at all. What I'm saying is, try and put yourself out there without assuming women (generally) are going to use you. Every woman is different and if you set a tone, you'll either get a positive or negative response.. so try and make it a good one.

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I may have to be alone. I do not have to be taken advantage of
Well there's definitely a lot of needy people out there. If we learn to pick up those red flags early on, we won't end up disappointed and feeling used.

Maybe you attract needy people. All of my 3 relationships have been with codependents.. so there's something in me I need to address in order to not attract this personality type. The solution isn't to isolate ourselves further. That will definitely feed into depression.

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My point is all these days are for people who have and are advertised as such. When have you seen an advert for valentines for example feature a depressed person. Marketing only wants shiny happy people.
Ya, for sure. Commercialism makes money.. but we dont have to succumb to it. We can celebrate holidays however we choose that makes "us" happy. It's a mental state.
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Ok, do you think they appreciate and trust how you handle important situations? Maybe they see you as that 'strong and silent' type.. which is a compliment.,, .
No it isn't a compliment. It is saying this person is just good to solve my problem and i do not care how they feel so long as i can solve the issue and go back to my family.

I am here over 5 years. If i wanted to be friends with them i would have approached them

Saying i attract needy people is trying to blame me for someone else's behaviour. It's their responsibility. I did not go to them when i was sick and in hospital 2 years ago. I dealt with it alone. They didn't want to know me then

What i meant was i meet women who i like but who are in relationship or single but not interested. Or i meet people interested in me buy i am not attracted to them. I want someone i feel for who returns it.

I stay away from friends zone. I think some women are v sly and will take advantage of
Friends zone people.

Friend zoners only want me when they want something, are bored like the cigarette in cold girl. They don't want to date me. If i am not good enough to date how could i be good enough to make representation for them?

I would not let someone treat me like that.
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Default May 12, 2020 at 07:37 AM
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I’d say Mother’s Day is to celebrate mothers. So it’s for mothers. It’s not really for people who have or don’t have mothers

I am sorry you are having hard time with finding a girlfriend. Dating could be very hard

I don’t think neighbors took advantage of you because they are women and you are a man. Writing a letter is gender neutral activity. Maybe they knew you are a good writer or maybe they knew you were the most upset and would be willing to write. Maybe other people they approached refused to write the letter. Hard to tell

I Am sorry you are struggling. This is a tough time
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I’d say Mother’s Day is to celebrate mothers. So it’s for mothers. It’s not really for people who have or don’t have mothers
i disagree

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I don’t think neighbors took advantage of you because they are women and you are a man. Writing a letter is gender neutral activity.
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What do you think Mother's Day is for?
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It seems like you're saying you don't want to ever be friends with a woman and are only interested if there's a romantic possibility. Personally, I have friends who are male and female, in relationships and single. I don't think it's wise to not want to be friends with someone because they are unavailable romantically.
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It seems like you're saying you don't want to ever be friends with a woman and are only interested if there's a romantic possibility. Personally, I have friends who are male and female, in relationships and single. I don't think it's wise to not want to be friends with someone because they are unavailable romantically.
That is your choice. i made mine
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Why do you feel that women want to use you?

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Why do you feel that women want to use you?

i discovered they came to me re the criminal as they feared reprisal if they raised it.Does not matter if I suffer reprisal

Some are married.Why would a married woman need to go to someone other than their husband? .

Some are single parents.
Where are the fathers of the single parent children who were scared? They are not my children

If i were married my wife would not have to go to another man because i would look after her in such a situation as would be my duty.


None of these people cared about me when i was in hospital 3 years ago.They don't come to me except when they want something. I am not good enough to date but only good enough to risk reprisal for them?

I am hoping to leave this area.Either way they got told to solve their own problems in future
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