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May 21, 2020 at 12:19 AM
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So I'm a lesbian. Me & my wife have been together for 5+years and she's been wanting to get married (I never wanted to & she knew that) but I did it cause I thought it would change things and also so she would stop asking me about it 24/7 even tho she was aware how I felt... long story short... we've been married a year now and I just feel like it was a mistake cause & I feel stuck (anytime I try to end things... she becomes irrational and pretty much begs me to stay) but I met this female online a few months ago and we video chat and talk on the phone and what started as a friendship we started to really like eachother but she obviously doesn't like the fact that I'm in a marriage so she got mad and doesn't want to speak to me anymore... i can't stop thinking about her. I'm sure it feels so amazing cause the relationship is fresh but she really has me questioning things with my wife (I was doing this before I met this other woman) btw I've never cheated on her before this but I've been wanting to end things before meeting this female... am I wrong for wanting to be with this other female? Should I tell my wife? Although she's irrational... i want to work things out with my wife but it feels like the love has been gone from the both of us but I feel like she's in denial
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May 21, 2020 at 09:59 AM
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I would leave your wife and not stay just because she begs you to. It's not fair to her or to you at this point. You didn't even want to get married to her. She sounds diffifcult, needy and very demanding, not to mention disrespectful of your own wishes.
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May 21, 2020 at 10:03 AM
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It is "emotional blackmail" for her to make you suffer emotionally when you don't do what she wants.
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May 22, 2020 at 03:30 AM
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end it with her before you resume things with this other person.
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May 22, 2020 at 07:34 AM
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May 22, 2020 at 02:58 PM
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May 22, 2020 at 03:05 PM
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May 23, 2020 at 12:03 AM
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You got married for the wrong reason and did her no favors by doing so. You both deserve to be happy and it’s not fair to either of you to stay in it because it’s convenient. Tell her the truth and divorce her.
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