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Old 05-21-2020, 12:19 AM   #1
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So I'm a lesbian. Me & my wife have been together for 5+years and she's been wanting to get married (I never wanted to & she knew that) but I did it cause I thought it would change things and also so she would stop asking me about it 24/7 even tho she was aware how I felt... long story short... we've been married a year now and I just feel like it was a mistake cause & I feel stuck (anytime I try to end things... she becomes irrational and pretty much begs me to stay) but I met this female online a few months ago and we video chat and talk on the phone and what started as a friendship we started to really like eachother but she obviously doesn't like the fact that I'm in a marriage so she got mad and doesn't want to speak to me anymore... i can't stop thinking about her. I'm sure it feels so amazing cause the relationship is fresh but she really has me questioning things with my wife (I was doing this before I met this other woman) btw I've never cheated on her before this but I've been wanting to end things before meeting this female... am I wrong for wanting to be with this other female? Should I tell my wife? Although she's irrational... i want to work things out with my wife but it feels like the love has been gone from the both of us but I feel like she's in denial
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Old 05-21-2020, 09:59 AM   #2
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I would leave your wife and not stay just because she begs you to. It's not fair to her or to you at this point. You didn't even want to get married to her. She sounds diffifcult, needy and very demanding, not to mention disrespectful of your own wishes.
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It is "emotional blackmail" for her to make you suffer emotionally when you don't do what she wants.

I think it will be worth your while to read a bit about it.
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end it with her before you resume things with this other person.
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It is "emotional blackmail" for her to make you suffer emotionally when you don't do what she wants.

I think it will be worth your while to read a bit about it.
OMG she literally does all those things... Ive never heard of emotional blackmail before but I'm glad you were able to introduce me to it smh
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She's been wanting to get married (I never wanted to) but I did it so she would stop asking me about it 24/7

we've been married a year now and I just feel like it was a mistake cause & I feel stuck (anytime I try to end things... she becomes irrational)

I've been wanting to end things.. she's irrational... it feels like the love has been gone from the both of us
I quoted you on what stood out for me the most. It sounds like the problem is yours. If you're this unhappy with her, find a way to make the seperation work. Life is too short to be with the wrong person, let alone, stay with the wrong person.
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This might be of interest to you:

18+ Ways to Handle Emotional Blackmail (+ Examples & Quotes)
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You got married for the wrong reason and did her no favors by doing so. You both deserve to be happy and its not fair to either of you to stay in it because its convenient. Tell her the truth and divorce her.
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