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Jun 06, 2020 at 02:31 PM
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I don't understand men... He flirted with me extensivly on FB messenger... IRL lets me do stuff like rub his hair, but then turns around and gives me reason x y and z why we can't date then tells me I should have "understood" he wasn't serious... I have Asperger's and maybe there were non-verbal cues I didn't pick up on???
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Jun 06, 2020 at 02:45 PM
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Ok. How is he flirting? Does he know you have Asperger's?
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Jun 06, 2020 at 02:56 PM
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Flirting by sending stickers of hearts and "I love you" on FB messenger... He knows I have autism but I don't know how much he knows about it...
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Jun 06, 2020 at 06:58 PM
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Jun 06, 2020 at 08:16 PM
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Ya, he's not "flirting". He's misleading you. Not nice.
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Jun 06, 2020 at 08:19 PM
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I would stay away from him. Hes sending you stickers on Facebook... with the text "I love you" and throwing you hearts... allowing you to do certain things like rubbing on his hair... making excuses not to date you sounds cold and harsh. I would block him and lose his number.
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Jun 07, 2020 at 04:59 AM
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Have to agree with some of the posters here.
How do you feel about this? Do you still wish to be friends with this person? Based on what you've told us, I have personally observed friends be like this towards each other. Physical touch, expressing love, flirting, but are just friends. So he may not have been intentionally misleading you. Whether you misread anything, well, he didn't give any indication it wasn't serious. Even if you did misinterpret some things though, it doesn't detract from how you feel. Even if he didn't realize what he did to lead you on. He could have simply apologized that he hurt you, and that it wasn't his intention to lead you on. Instead, he deflected the blame on you, invalidating your feelings and showing no compassion or remorse. If you don't want to stay in touch with him any longer, or stay away from him for awhile, that's completely valid as well. Im curious though. Did you ask him out? Or did he bring it up himself reasons why you can't date? |
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Jun 07, 2020 at 09:39 AM
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His main reasons he sited were he's a relative by marriage and he doesn't date mentally ill people...
The truth is he's a registered sex offender (he denies he did it) diagnosed with Antisocial Personally... My online friends have been concerned about me... __________________ It's as simple as I love birds...
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Jun 07, 2020 at 09:46 AM
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I’d keep my distance from him
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Jun 07, 2020 at 09:49 AM
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I agree, keeping distance is a good idea.
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