Is it possible to move emotionally involved relation to move to Platonic friendship?

That's the part I am struggling with; How do you get someone out of Limerence or in love feeling.

It took good 3 years to create that feelings for her, and right now we are in No Contact Policy; and his family wants nothing to do with us.

She wants to keep contact secretly without anyone's knowledge and that's the hard part; Why would I stay in contact with him knowing my wife loves him; and they have tendency to betray and lie to me.


They got to this position by taking advantage of my good nature and Trust; Is this my responsibility to send him a message?

The way he got my wife is by complaining that his wife does not pay attention and is neglecting him; So, he portrayed that he lost emotional connection with his wife and my wife is more understanding and she can connect to him better; and over time my wife started to say and do the same about me.

I told my wife that we got involved with this family because we can help support each other as family unit, and he should be motivated to improve his marriage otherwise he is just impeding into my family unit; and taking away what's mine.

Well, it sounds like he has already disrespected not only your relationship but his own. Actually they both have.

How long have you been married? I am confused about why she got pregnant by him and not you.

Her story about him being a secret sperm donor doesn’t ring true to me. What clinic would just accept anyone’s sperm in fertility treatment? Have you talk to the clinic that did fertility treatment?

They conceived a baby normal way having an affair but now telling you bogus stories about sperm donation. Sperm donation is a lie unless you sued the clinic and got it proved that they used whoever’s sperm unbeknownst to you. She put you on a birth certificate before even telling you that you aren’t a biological father. I really don’t get it, why are you still married?

Thing about their disillusion is they are saying that their spouse were not paying attention and providing emotional support they required in a relationship; So, they found a match in each other.

By keeping a "fake" friendship with me he was able to get involved with us for all the vacations, Christmas and other Social gatherings; and being family friend I thought why not.

If going to activity with his family made my wife happy than I have nothing against them until I realized that they used me a pawn to get themselves closer and then make excuse of falling in love him by chance.

Yes, exactly...you know what's up. Leave her ***...move on...(I know easier said than done). You do not deserve to be treated that way. I hope it all works out for you.