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Was dating someone for a couple of months. Things were really great. The things he said and did, all pointed that he was falling for me. He called me one night and the conversation was great. He was supposed to come over in a little bit. I get a phone call from him, but it was him talking to his female roommate. She said,"well you are the one who is always off trying to make this relationship." Then they starting chatting and I hung up the phone. He never showed up. No call. Just a text a day later saying sorry, he fell asleep because he got a bad sunburn. He texted me an hour later. How's your day going? I replied back an hour later. Then crickets...nothing...I texted him a couple of days later and called him...more crickets.
How do you go from never being happier...to that? I know it wasnt a long time together, but things were really good. I am really just trying to figure out what went wrong and if I should try to contact him again. |
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I'm sorry he seemed to just "fade away" metalchick. I'd feel hurt by that too. And how disappointing. How long ago was your last interaction? If it was recent, you could ask what happened. To get closure. Though, there's no telling what his reason may be. And his reason may hurt, too.
I have heard stories like this before about dating, so you're not alone in having someone express interest, only to suddenly change. It happens in the dating world, it appears. I'm sorry you had this experience, though. |
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We havent spoken/texted in 2 weeks. I do need closure. No matter how bad. But idk if he will even speak to me. I also think the roommate had a lot to do with it. She was very jealous. Calling all the time to try and get him to come and do something for her. So idk...maybe I was taking too much of his time.
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It’s possible he was involved with his roommate romantically . One way or the other, maybe casually or maybe he made promises and then go see other women. She was understandably jealous. I am suspicious of men claiming to have female roommates. Those are typically are actual wives or girlfriends.
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Fishy at best. He probably was involved with the female roommate. Do NOT call him or chase him. He is not chasing or pursuing YOU, and you look desperate if you chase him. Two months is not long enough. It can feel great, sure, but that's just the honeymoon phase. It takes months of being together in many different situations to really get to know someone for real. This guy is not for real. So do yourself a huge favor and don't appear desperate or needy. It ruins self esteem. Just move forward. Don't call him again.
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Thank you for your advise. I was very tempted to call to find out what happened. But I know I dont deserve this. It still feels crappy though.
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Sadly most of the time we will never know the answer. Even if you get an answer, you’ll never know if it’s true answer. He wasn’t a good relationship prospect, that’s the only answer you really have. You deserve better. Hugs
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It was the 4th of july...well technically the 5th of july. And he calls...leaves a message...then texts me twice. Saying that he was out of state and it's been a really crazy month and wants to tell me the story over the phone. He apologized, too. I haven't responded. I want to though. Just when I was getting on too. My friends think I should not call him. Everything I've read about this says to not respond. I just want to find out what happened...so at least I can get closure. Any thoughts on this?
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You won’t know what happened. You’ll only know what he’ll tell you. Don’t call.
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He did not contact you from approx June 16 to July 5? He was so incredibly busy that he could not even call or text you for about three weeks, not even to warn/explain about his disappearance?
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Yeah it was more like may 30th until july 5th.
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Even worse!
If you give out that it is okay to come and go as he pleases, with absences of many weeks at a time, I think you will live to regret it. Don't call. I'm really sorry that he turned out to be this way. |
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