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#41
The worrying thing here is that he is not getting any help over his instincts and/or deep-seated desires.
All those instinctual urges (plus, he admits still watching such violent documentaries & not to mention his violent past) are just lying dormant, simmering under the surface. One day he can blow up and then what? I would run a mile and not trust his words. |
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#42
So, 9 days ago I let my neighbors who I am friends with know what is going on, then left to stay with a friend.
10 days ago I saw my therapist, and received coaching on how to break up. He had me wrote a bullet-pointed script that made it all about me and what I am looking for. Skirted the violent fear altogether and blessed him for the things he said he wanted - to be free of the "burden" to do what he's passionate about - business. I have continued to stay with friends, but will return home in a few days. Next step on my work with my therapist is dealing with how I got sucked into this in the first place. I have joined a Facebook support group for survivors of narcissistic/sociopathic relationships. And have reached out to friends and family to not go through this alone. The pain is devastating and deep. I feel like I've been stabbed and am bleeding out. Not really functional at all. But I am moving forward with the knowledge that the pain will heal and that I deserve so so much better. I am so grateful that I posted in this forum and for everyone's honest feedback. My therapist reminded me when I was feeling terrible that I didn't pick up on the red flags, that love is truly blind. It's not easy. But I will get through this wiser and stronger. |
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#43
Thank you so much for letting us know!
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#44
Thank you for letting us know. You are wise and strong beyond your years. Hugs
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