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So im looking forward in life since everything is starting to go in a favourable way for me but..recently(today) i thought about an old friend of mine ,which i haven't met yet but i remember we used to be very friendly to each other and i've been thinking of texting her but..it was me who said we should stop talking ,but i haven't told her that i just needed to go find myself ,and im pretty embarrased about it ,since before that we had a fight ,and after some time she apologized ,and i said that it was my fault too..And now i just felt like i should text her but i dont know..i think i should let it be something of the past and at the same time im thinking ,maybe i should see how she's doing ,even though its none of my business ,yet i care about her since we used to be friends ,im really conflicted about this.
I think it's worth to mention im a loner and i don't get friendly with just about anyone ,because im a sensitive nature and i know how much i can care about somebody. |
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It’s nice that you are in a more positive place right now. Perhaps see if you can stay in this positive direction for a while before taking steps to see how this person is doing.
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It’s not a bad thing to think about her though. Just keep working at maintaining the positives first.
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And after a while when i have full control of being like this ,should i text her or go my way?
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There is nothing wrong with texting an old friend to ask how she is doing.
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Say you follow your feelings, text her to see how she is (great time during a pandemic to do this), keep it casual and nice and she does not respond or responds badly... Will that send you spiraling down? It’s a nice gesture to reach out and I usually feel there’s no harm in it. But, first think about if there is potentially any harm to you in it. If none, then I always encourage friendship.
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I think a bit differently on the issue. When someone tells someone else they should stop talking, to me that ends the relationship or the correspondence between you. That can be very hurtful to the person on the receiving end. Perhaps she didn't want to stop talking, despite the previous fight you had had. I say let sleeping dogs lie. It may stir up old wounds for her. After all, you were the one who ended the relationship. I don't think it's really fair to the go back and try to start things up again as friends.
I had someone do something similar to me. However, she had ghosted me completely. We met on a mental health forum, we wrote emails to each other for two years, but never met. Then she suddenly disappeared without an explanation. I was very hurt by that. Then she just as suddenly reappeared and emailed out of the blue three years later and wanted to pick up the friendship again. I was so hurt by her ghosting me, that I said no. I wasn't interested. I had written several emails asking her where she was and why she stopped writing me. She had never replied and didn't give me an explanation at the time. While my story is different, I say let it be. Just my two cents! __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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