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Trig Aug 04, 2020 at 06:46 AM
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I have seen my wife with another guy in photos. They were making love and sharing nude photos to each other. My wife is caring for me and she is accepting that she had done something wrong. I don’t want to lose her as I have kids and old age parents. But those photos are coming in my mind at every second. How to erase such memory?
I am also facing sleepless night and every moment I think about those events when my wife was making love to her lover.

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Hi girdhar. Was the photos taken when you were married? I know it doesn't matter but it does. Does your wife know you saw the photos? Maybe talking to her about
how you feel will help some. I have regrets that I've done (a photo) an exboyfriend has. He told me if we would break up, he would show this photo to my dad. Oh my!
Time has gone by with this photo. I'm married now, for 8 yrs and my dad has passed away. I don't have any answers. Take care, my friend!
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Hello girdhar: I see this is your first post here on PC. Welcome to Psych Central.

I'm sorry but there is no way I am aware of to erase a memory. In fact, the reality is, I believe, the more you try to rid yourself of a difficult or painful memory, the stronger it becomes. The key is to learn to be able to simply allow the memories to arise & fade at their own pace without becoming hooked by them. Here are links to 5 articles, from Psych Central's archives, however that offer suggestions for how to cope with difficult or painful memories:

Coping with Obsessive Thoughts

Why Can't I Shut Off My Mind?

Eight Step Method for Managing Intense Emotion

7 Steps to Conquer a Painful Emotion

9 Ways to Let Go of Stuck Thoughts

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

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I have seen my wife with another guy in photos. They were making love and sharing nude photos to each other. My wife is caring for me and she is accepting that she had done something wrong. I don’t want to lose her as I have kids and old age parents. But those photos are coming in my mind at every second. How to erase such memory?
I am also facing sleepless night and every moment I think about those events when my wife was making love to her lover.
you might be able to stop the emotional impact of the memories with NLP
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