Met another online man who is single and lives far away again!

I met this man online before but since I was at home I could not do or say what I wanted. Now, I am free and living alone and he was online again and we re-kindled our connection and are talking again. He is single and works in Paris. He lives with his mother. He likes to travel and went to Brazil last year. I think he wants to meet me somewhere but in this current situation, I am not sure when or how we are going to meet in person. He is very shy and nice though. He is the same age as I am. He has never married and has no kids. I think he is very good looking and looks like David Beckham. And, his personality is good which is why I liked him before. I don't expect too much from him because he is too far away. And, I don't think we will marry or anything. But, it would be nice if we could meet somewhere one day. I think we will continue communicating this time because I am free now. I don't think he is a bad fellow. He can't speak English too well but writes quite well. He is nice and sweet. I feel good vibes from him but have not told him about my illness yet. I may not tell him if it is not that important to our communication for now. I guess, I am writing here because after pouring my soul to the married man, I realize that it was going nowhere. I still write this man but know I am not a priority in this married man's life. So, it is nice that this other man came into my life again. He is on vacation and is at his summer home in Italy which looks very nice and quaint. I think he wants to meet me here. But, whatever the future holds, it is up in the air for now. I know there must be a reason why he never married and has no kids. I think it is because he does not have the economic means to have gotten married. He works for the government as a civil servant. I don't think he is making that much money which is not an issue for me. I think he is a nice man and is playful. I like him for now. I hope it works out for me and him, not as a relationship, but as a friendship. If it grows into a relationship, then this is ok too. Thank you for reading!

That's nice you made a connection, but what happened to focusing on your own life? In your last thread, that's what you stated. Why are you still trying to connect with a man, especially long distance when in reality it probably cannot even materialize? You must be very lonely, is my guess, and I think you're having a lot of trouble sitting with yourself, by yourself and working on your life without a man being involved in some way. I am not judging you, I am just being honest with what I see you doing. What's so wrong with focusing on YOU?

Did I do something wrong? hmmm, I am just venting here. I am ok with my situation and with this man. He is nice and sweet. I am lonely and have not really interacted with anyone for the last three months. But, life is ok. I am not complaining or anything. I have a job which keeps me busy. I am also stable mentally and physically doing fine. I take care of myself now and am fine. Is there something wrong about chatting with a man? I am not expecting anything from it, really. I am just shooting the breeze and am glad to have someone who listens to me and appreciates me. I am happy for now!!

My apologies. I did not mean to make you feel like you did anything wrong. I was only pointing out that a few days ago you said you would focus on your own life and on yourself. And then you meet someone new and get wrapped up in him. Also, it can't be that long that you've been in touch with him. How can you know him so well to say you are happy with him? You just started to become reacquainted. I also was pointing out the realities of dating at a great long distance.

Regardless, it's your life. You're free to do as you please!

He is ok. I am realizing he spends half of his time exercising and staying in shape though. He looks like a male model. I like him but when we speak he can't talk much English so we just smile a lot. I think he is great-looking but know that this type of relationship is rather superficial and vapid. But, he is nice. We are both poor and have this is common. But, otherwise, I am wondering what is going to keep us together. He has many women who come on to him. So, I don't know what he sees in me except that I look young for my age and am nice too. I am not sure that smiling and looking good are going to keep us together but at least we can be friends.

He has a summer home but does not have the economic means to get married?

It's his mother's summer home. He lives with his mother and travels with her there.

I assume you've done vid calls with him to have seen he does look like David Beckham. I was gonna say maybe don't tell him that because of the sporting rivalry between the english and french but I'd forgotten Beckham actually played for Paris St Germain for a while late in his career and helped them win the league championship!

Civil servant working for a government in France certainly has means to get married. Their average salary is close to average salary in the US. Not filthy rich of course, but surely enough to be married and raise a family. They also have decent pension plan.

If he cannot speak much English what’s the point here? Smiling a lot on a video call can’t go too far. And if you’re both broke, how would you even meet? It does sound shallow... meaning not enough to keep it going. I’ve found that guys who work out a ton are superficial and are really into their looks.

How old is he to still be living with his mother? You’re independent. I would think you’d want a guy who is also independent and self sufficient.

When you say you 'met' him online what do you mean? I know there are dating apps but they are like for people who are going to meet up- at least pre-covid they were. Have you done a reverse image google search of his image?

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Originally Posted by bpforever1 I met this man online before but since I was at home I could not do or say what I wanted. Now, I am free and living alone and he was online again and we re-kindled our connection and are talking again. He is single and works in Paris. He lives with his mother. He likes to travel and went to Brazil last year. I think he wants to meet me somewhere but in this current situation, I am not sure when or how we are going to meet in person. He is very shy and nice though. He is the same age as I am. He has never married and has no kids. I think he is very good looking and looks like David Beckham. And, his personality is good which is why I liked him before. I don't expect too much from him because he is too far away. And, I don't think we will marry or anything. But, it would be nice if we could meet somewhere one day. I think we will continue communicating this time because I am free now. I don't think he is a bad fellow. He can't speak English too well but writes quite well. He is nice and sweet. I feel good vibes from him but have not told him about my illness yet. I may not tell him if it is not that important to our communication for now. I guess, I am writing here because after pouring my soul to the married man, I realize that it was going nowhere. I still write this man but know I am not a priority in this married man's life. So, it is nice that this other man came into my life again. He is on vacation and is at his summer home in Italy which looks very nice and quaint. I think he wants to meet me here. But, whatever the future holds, it is up in the air for now. I know there must be a reason why he never married and has no kids. I think it is because he does not have the economic means to have gotten married. He works for the government as a civil servant. I don't think he is making that much money which is not an issue for me. I think he is a nice man and is playful. I like him for now. I hope it works out for me and him, not as a relationship, but as a friendship. If it grows into a relationship, then this is ok too. Thank you for reading!

He is my age. So, he is not young. He writes English ok it's just that he can't speak it too well. He sent me videos of him exercising. And, I believe this is how he spends half of his time. He is very laid back otherwise. He is ok. I don't mind him. It's better to look at him and his physical beauty than some old man who is out of shape and haggard. He is quiet and speaks softly. He is charming at times with his winks and smiles. I think sometimes it is ok to just be handsome and smile rather than debating about some esoteric theme which nobody cares about anyways. He is really handsome and he knows this. He really works out a lot to the point of being obsessed with fitness. I am opposite and realize he likes me because I compliment him and make him feel good about himself. I really don't mind him but know if things get serious and deep, then I will be surprised!! lol, this world is superficial and people judge others initially on appearance. It is sad but true. For now, he pleases my eye and is not a nuisance so I really don't mind him.

I met him on a penpal site and did a reverse google image search on his pictures. Nothing is coming up! He is sending me recent pics too because we both take pics daily and send them to each other. He is really handsome and muscle from head to toe. I don't know if he is smart because we talk about the weather, his day, my day, and basically do small talk with each other. He is infatuated with me and may be I am with him too. So, well, I must not look too bad. I know looks are not everything though. I don't mind him. He is charming in his own way. Sometimes, physical beauty is not a bad thing, especially if one is nice and charming as well. I don't know where we are headed but for now the situation is ok by me. I don't hurt him and he does not hurt me. So, we are both cordial to each other and charmed by each other. I see no harm in communicating with him. I did ask him why he is not attached and he replied he did not know. If you ask me, he has too many women coming onto him and he can pick and choose anybody he likes. He is sexy too! So, I wish God would put more men like him on earth but honestly he has some issues may be with attachment. He is very close to his mother and may be nobody can replace her. I don't know for sure. I do know that I'm not interested in marriage for now and am just having some fun with my time. I'm sure he knows this too since I am still single at my age. So, for every Jack there is a Jill. I don't think he is serious about a relationship for now and neither am I. How can we have a relationship online only? I don't think so. I am ok with this. Life is too short to seek perfection in others. For now, I am ok with him and don't mind his existence in my life.

Who sends videos of themselves exercising? How is that even remotely interesting? And you've mentioned how handsome he is a lot.

Have fun I guess.

We are in a pandemic, so I get it if you're bored and lonely. I do get that.

Well, yes, I was bored!! But, I got rid of him and blocked him today because he wanted to meet another woman for sex. He also said he wanted to have **** sex and use my butt as a piece of meat. Well, I had enough of this chit chat and blocked him and his lover. Who wants to be used like a piece of meat? I may have fantasies about group sex but in reality would not participate with such people I hardly know and who have no interest in me as a person. So, enough is enough of this nonsense!! I think my judgment is impaired at times, but this time I know when to run with the wind. Well, underneath all of his physical beauty was ugliness. So, I don't need to deal with this disgusting individual. I am ok and off the pen pal site because all I get are requests for sex. I really don't know why because I'm not dressed provocatively or anything. Hmm, weird site and weird people. Well, I'm back to focusing on myself again!

YIKES. WOW.

Well, good for you for ducking out of that one and for blocking him!!