I cut him off but then he tried to turn the tables!

My fault for not blocking him smh... Now here’s a plot twist with the dude: he tried to do the same thing I did (stop hanging out) after I already did...weird! Starting making all these excuses; wants a family, working on businesses and bla bla bla..he’s all talk. He’s been saying this for the past two years. He’s 47 years old for goodness sakes..always saying he’s going to be a millionaire in a couple months..He seems bitter, but I mean we had no future together and I’m not popping out a baby at 49 years old!!

I have been in NC, I left him alone all weekend didn’t text him one time...I don’t get him. We already established we wouldn’t be in contact, so now he has to look like he’s in control? I’m not perfect, but he’s really got issues with accepting responsibility..thud started because he lied

I’d not worry about what he does and why. I sure hope he doesn’t start family, he is always drunk, not a father material. But it’s neither here nor there. It doesn’t matter what he does or doesn’t do. Block him

I hope not either. I know the effects of alcoholism with children, and if your too selfish to stop drinking, you shouldn’t be having kids. Period

The sooner you can distance yourself and separate yourself emotionally from all HIS DRAMA the better off you will be. It's all negative, toxic drama -- who needs it?

Turn your attention to other things besides him. Focus on yourself and your own life.

Yes, I am taking this day by day. I had enough of his drama, lies and BS. He didn’t have a problem stringing me along, time to move forward.

You deserve far better. Just keep that in mind as you move forward, and it will be easier to let him go.

Do what you think is best for your and him. If you want a baby go for it, but if you do not then you need to let him know and also speak to him about your feelings.

What baby???

She already let him know about her feelings many times over

Hugs and respect

Disney from what you shared this guy is all about control. This is also one of the core reasons he has a problem with alcohol.

It also is a contest in his mind where he criticizes and punishes and plays games and creates fantasies and desires attention and expresses self importance.

Nothing there for you to benefit from.

Thank you, I’m getting nothing positive from him

And you wont get anything positive from him either. The best thing to do with this "I need to win control" type person is to let them think they won and walk away if all you are dealing with is "ego". You already discovered that anytime you experience him there is nothing there but HIS ego. This is an individual that likes to blow up like a balloon, likes to fill space with me, me, me. Look at all the attention I can get and how I can attract others. Yet, if you were to take a pin and pop that ego balloon? The reality is THERE IS NOTHING THERE.

This type of individual NEEDS an audience to fill the air into their ego balloon. You are just one, they need more than that and that's what he keeps showing you. They are so empty they can't happen without some kind of audience. That's what he displayed to you when he danced with other girls and kept checking to make sure you were watching.

What you have shared shows a pattern and this kind of person will display their pattern if you observe them. He navigates always needing to find an audience so he can inflate his ego. There is nothing there for you but HIS ego.

I agree. I made it worse by being too available to hang out. I have observed that he treats people differently who have a busy life, and aren’t too available

@Disney2019, if this is the same guy you recently posted about, it's time to seriously look at your own behaviors. Not to sound harsh or mean, but I'm going to present a bit of tough love. You separated from this man romantically, you've tried to do no contact, had trouble with it and then wanted to be friends with him, and then he proved himself to still treat you like crap. You spoke in another thread about always being the one to chase. There's something from this man that you seek, yet you're never going to get it from him.

Understand that from toxic people, attention, true love and respect will never be obtained. And he IS toxic. It's like trying to squeeze blood from a rock, over and over again, getting the same results.

Your best bet is to cut all ties with this man, and get yourself some therapy to figure out why you are chasing men who won't give you the time of day and who treat you with disrespect.

Do you not think highly enough of yourself that you don't believe you deserve true respect, common courtesy, human decency and honorable behavior and honorable intentions from men?

These are serious questions you need to ask yourself. And I say this with compassion, from having followed each of your threads about this same DUFUS.

I understand what you mean about the game and turning the tables. If you have anything like that happening in the relationship, I can tell you, it’s never going to be good. I’m sorry to see you are still spinning your wheels with this man. The immaturity occurring in the late 40’s mind boggles me. I never dated past my mid 20’s, so IDK how older dating goes. I did have experiences back then that remind me of the games you are describing. The bottom line— disengage from players and don’t play the games. There are plenty of men who will treat a woman right. For your own sanity, leave him alone.

Very good, that is important to recognize. Yes, you made yourself "available" and that's what you have to pay attention to.

I am a nice person and you too are probably a nice person but you don't have to be available to another person who suddenly treats you badly. Especially when that person doubles down and uses something you shared against you. That's not something "nice" people choose to do.

People often show you who they are, BELIEVE THEM and walk away. Don't make yourself available so you can be treated badly.

This individual displayed important red flags, if you keep making yourself availiabe then it's your own fault when you are again treated badly. Choices always have consequences especially when ignoring important red flags.