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I'm the same and also wondering how. At work for instance I know a few people but find it hard to develop into a proper friendship. Whereas others seem to manage this with ease. I think for me, being a listener is good but you also need to share as well. I find I'm too scared to share things because I'm busy concentrating on how I am perceived. I worry I will bore the person. Because of this though nobody knows anything about me, or very little! I think friendship is about give and take, but it is more difficult as an adult. I totally agree!
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In full lockdown again at the moment so everything in on hold with friendships except for phone and texting. I notice I am becoming a little reclusive and my social anxiety is making a return. I fell out of touch with a lot of peripheral contacts this year which I guess is to be expected.
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I basically just think I have a lot of walls up and it doesn't help my situation with making friends! It's also easy to get drowned out by others who may be louder and more sociable! |
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Good luck to you too! You are definitely not alone in this! It's hard work as an adult.
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I usually develop friendships at work, at least until i leave, apart from that, i do not make friends.
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I don't like to rely on work to develop friends. It can be one place to develop friends, but then also it can be difficult to be really friends with people you work with and deal with certain things that happen in business. I've also found that when you leave a job, many friends you found at work are no longer your friends.
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I know a fair few people from work but would only class 2 (one who I've known since school but works at the same place) as proper friends. I think I'd lose touch with most of the others pretty quickly if I left! Totally understand how difficult it is. I actually found that the people I knew from school are still in a pretty close friendship group. In my experience the friends that have stayed together are ones who've known each other for a long time. |
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