Taking family off my paid subscriptions

LilyMop · Sep 22, 2020 at 12:55 PM

I have some family members on one of my paid streaming subscriptions. I really don’t want them on there anymore. I’ve pretty much pulled entirely away from family and drama. If I take them off my account it’s probably not worth the drama because they will get very upset and hold it against me ... everything I do is held against me pretty much forever.... it’s an expensive streaming subscription that they won’t want to pay for themselves.... but at the same time I feel like I am a doormat. I’ve often made decisions based on their feelings instead of my own. I want to change this going forward.

Crazy Hitch · Sep 23, 2020 at 02:00 AM

I’d give them one of two options: pay half if they want to continue streaming or they get removed entirely.

sarahsweets · Sep 23, 2020 at 03:13 AM

Take them off by changing the passwords which will force them to contact you. Then tell them why you are not allowing them to use your services.

TunedOut · Sep 23, 2020 at 05:42 AM

Guilt tripping is a manipulation technique for many people. I used to fall for it but recognize it better now. I think both of the suggestions above are good. I consider streaming a want/luxury, not a need so you do not have to feel guilty about taking them off.

ArtleyWilkins · Sep 23, 2020 at 06:57 AM

Just change your passwords. They'll get the message. You can tell them you dropped the service. They'll never know.

EagleTears · Sep 23, 2020 at 03:08 PM

Like others... I agree. Things in life aren't free. If they're not willing to help cover the cost then they don't need to be using your account. Change your passwords. They might not be too happy, but they need to deal with it and fork out some dough to support their entertainment habit.

guy1111 · Sep 23, 2020 at 11:28 PM

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Originally Posted by LilyMop

If I take them off my account it’s probably not worth the drama because they will get very upset and hold it against me

But it's already drama for you because it's causing you to be upset! Nothing will change until you change your password. They might be upset for a short while, but you will feel better afterwards.

You are strong and brave for looking your fears head on!!

LilyMop · Oct 06, 2020 at 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by guy1111

But it's already drama for you because it's causing you to be upset! Nothing will change until you change your password. They might be upset for a short while, but you will feel better afterwards.

You are strong and brave for looking your fears head on!!

I took them off my account and nobody said a word. I have no idea why I made such a big deal about it in my own head. I’m tired of people pleasing.

guy1111 · Oct 07, 2020 at 06:53 AM

Good job! I am proud of you! You probably just care alot about your family members and don't want to be hurt by them. It's hard being a people pleaser. Sometimes you feel like if you take care of yourself instead of others, it's not immediately satisfying so what's the point? It takes time and practice to put your own needs first. It doesn't feel natural. Only after making it a habit does it start to really feel good inside.

Again, you are very brave for moving forward like this! Keep it up!!

Prycejosh1987 · Nov 12, 2020 at 11:54 AM

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Originally Posted by LilyMop

I have some family members on one of my paid streaming subscriptions. I really don’t want them on there anymore. I’ve pretty much pulled entirely away from family and drama. If I take them off my account it’s probably not worth the drama because they will get very upset and hold it against me ... everything I do is held against me pretty much forever.... it’s an expensive streaming subscription that they won’t want to pay for themselves.... but at the same time I feel like I am a doormat. I’ve often made decisions based on their feelings instead of my own. I want to change this going forward.

Sounds good to me, i would pay for my child's phone bill but that is far as i would go. Its good to think about your finances even when thinking about family, and things like subscriptions. I have paid bills WITH my family but not FOR them.

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Crazy Hitch ɘvlovƎ Member Since Nov 2013 Location: Australia Posts: 18,568 (SuperPoster!) 10 12.6k hugs given	Sep 23, 2020 at 02:00 AM #2 I’d give them one of two options: pay half if they want to continue streaming or they get removed entirely.
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sarahsweets Threadtastic Postaholic Member Since Dec 2018 Location: New Jersey Posts: 6,006 (SuperPoster!) 5 192 hugs given	Sep 23, 2020 at 03:13 AM #3 Take them off by changing the passwords which will force them to contact you. Then tell them why you are not allowing them to use your services. __________________ "I carried a watermelon?" President of the no F's given society.
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TunedOut Grand Poohbah Member Since May 2019 Location: USA Posts: 1,523 4 6,984 hugs given	Sep 23, 2020 at 05:42 AM #4 Guilt tripping is a manipulation technique for many people. I used to fall for it but recognize it better now. I think both of the suggestions above are good. I consider streaming a want/luxury, not a need so you do not have to feel guilty about taking them off.
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ArtleyWilkins Magnate Member Since Oct 2018 Location: USA Posts: 2,787 5 7 hugs given	Sep 23, 2020 at 06:57 AM #5 Just change your passwords. They'll get the message. You can tell them you dropped the service. They'll never know.
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EagleTears Member Member Since Dec 2014 Location: Florida Posts: 66 9 13 hugs given	Sep 23, 2020 at 03:08 PM #6 Like others... I agree. Things in life aren't free. If they're not willing to help cover the cost then they don't need to be using your account. Change your passwords. They might not be too happy, but they need to deal with it and fork out some dough to support their entertainment habit.
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