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Old 10-17-2020, 12:25 PM   #11
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I find the holidays more stressful than enjoyable at this point. I was never a fan of Thanksgiving but liked Christmas and Halloween as a kid. Now Christmas involves travel to see people I'd rather not see. Thanksgiving has gotten tense over the years with two people having a cold war over who gets to cook. Thanksgiving will be small this year, if we do it at all. I hope Covid cancels our Christmas travel but am getting nervous my husband doesn't feel the same way, lol.
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Old 10-17-2020, 02:24 PM   #12
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I still like Christmas but not like I used to as a child. Still enjoy the gift giving/receiving but Im so glad online shopping is a thing and that I can knit some of my gifts as well - going round the shops tends to be kind of awful in the run up. I hate that some people feel so under pressure/obligated they take it out on others, on purpose or not.
I agree most holidays are too commercialised now - some shops in the UK already have mince pies and supermarkets usually have Easter eggs on the shelves soon after new year. I honestly dont have a clue whos buying them that early. Its utter madness.
Yep I agree. I am not a fan of shopping so I'm glad I can go online too. I also just get gift cards since that is the easiest. Basically just giving someone money to get what they want on their own. And I hate it when people feel so obligated and take it out on others as well. They put it on themselves so it is their responsibility. And yeah, I don't understand why shops start advertising so early too. I know they want people to buy but they do it too soon. Like I'll see Christmas stuff on the shelves as early as September. It is ridiculous.
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Old 10-17-2020, 02:30 PM   #13
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I find the holidays more stressful than enjoyable at this point. I was never a fan of Thanksgiving but liked Christmas and Halloween as a kid. Now Christmas involves travel to see people I'd rather not see. Thanksgiving has gotten tense over the years with two people having a cold war over who gets to cook. Thanksgiving will be small this year, if we do it at all. I hope Covid cancels our Christmas travel but am getting nervous my husband doesn't feel the same way, lol.
I agree. When I was a kid, my favorite holidays were Halloween and Christmas. Not anymore. I like the food during Thanksgiving but don't like having company during Thanksgiving and Christmas. Partially because they tend to overstay their welcome and also it is just too much. I will say, out of the four holidays, I prefer Halloween the most since there is no get togethers. The passing out candy part is for kids and for adults, it's usually just a night to hang out with others.

New Years is not bad but people go a bit too crazy at times, but I still prefer it over Thanksgiving and Christmas. Basically, like you said, it involves seeing people I'd rather not see. I can understand why you don't like it. And I hope not as many people come over for the holidays too. Not because I'm afraid of the virus, but just don't want many people over.
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I used to like the holidays a whole lot as a kid. I felt like, in growing up, that my family structure wasn't great. It seemed like the holidays was a period when we could be emotionally together. The rest of the year, not so.

The only thing I like about the holidays now is having time off from work. Christmas is the worst for me because there seems to be some kind of stigma of being alone at that time, in which I always am. And my birthday comes on New Years Day, so I'm a year older and not having some kind of party for me.

Thanksgiving is still kind of nice for me. But now, for some stupid reason, the company I work for does not observe the Friday after Thanksgiving like it used to.
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I used to like the holidays a whole lot as a kid. I felt like, in growing up, that my family structure wasn't great. It seemed like the holidays was a period when we could be emotionally together. The rest of the year, not so.

The only thing I like about the holidays now is having time off from work. Christmas is the worst for me because there seems to be some kind of stigma of being alone at that time, in which I always am. And my birthday comes on New Years Day, so I'm a year older and not having some kind of party for me.

Thanksgiving is still kind of nice for me. But now, for some stupid reason, the company I work for does not observe the Friday after Thanksgiving like it used to.
Aw Im sorry you are alone. That sucks that you no longer have off the day after Thanksgiving. And I believe that the older you get, the less you enjoy the holidays. I do enjoy the time off work but when there is company over, I usually cant wait for them to leave and Im so happy and relieved when they do leave or cancel their plans on coming over. I know that sounds rude but there are people Id rather not see no matter if they are family or not.
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I know that sounds rude but there are people Id rather not see no matter if they are family or not.

It doesn't sound rude to me at all. I know what you mean. There's my sister who lives 3000 miles away who is married with two adult children. I haven't spent any holidays with them and I wouldn't be interested to. It would be too much drama for me. They have never come to visit me. If I had the choice between me visiting them or them visiting me, I would choose the latter. It would make me feel more in control. But I think it would be nice to see them go if they did.
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It doesn't sound rude to me at all. I know what you mean. There's my sister who lives 3000 miles away who is married with two adult children. I haven't spent any holidays with them and I wouldn't be interested to. It would be too much drama for me. They have never come to visit me. If I had the choice between me visiting them or them visiting me, I would choose the latter. It would make me feel more in control. But I think it would be nice to see them go if they did.
Yeah I don't blame you for not wanting to go visit her. I'm also like you in the fact that if I do have to see company, I actually prefer for them to make the trip since I hate traveling. But it is nice to see them go too. And yeah, when company is over, there is more drama. More gossiping. If kids or even teenagers around, there is more yelling. And after awhile, especially if some of them overstay their welcome, people naturally start getting sick of each other. I prefer no company at all. And if there is company, I also prefer it to be a visit that lasts no more than a couple hours. Having them spend the night, especially for days to over a week on end is just way too much. I start thinking, please leave.
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