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Oct 15, 2020 at 10:05 AM
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Would you tell people who are close to you about your secrets and mental struggles? Even when it’s pretty dark (my case)? I’ve made some great progress with my therapist and I’m starting to feel more and more. I think I want to share the truth… people close to me think I have Asperger because it was a great excuse for my behavior and nobody pressured me since they knew Aspies don’t like it…
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Oct 15, 2020 at 01:42 PM
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it is a difficult topic to bring up to people close to you (mental health)
when I told my family, they abandoned me and offered no support at all (which sucked) I don't often tell friends unless people ask me, or they pick up on it (and then usually they find out and run a mile) but that's just my experience. I guess the people who are "close" to me, arn't as "close" as I first thought. I'm sure if the people you want to tell really care about you and want to support you, they'll understand |
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Oct 15, 2020 at 04:22 PM
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I think it depends a lot on what type of people the people who are close to you are as well as what your dark secrets are. The bottom line is you'll simply never know what kind of reaction you're going to get until you divulge your dark secrets.
I myself had what I at least considered to be a "dark secret" I had carried around literally for decades. I had fully intended to take it with me to my grave, so to speak. But via my own actions my secret became inadvertently known. When I realized what had occurred, I thought the earth would move under my feet. But, to my surprise, what actually occurred was that the person to whom my secret was divulged really just wasn't interested & the whole thing just rather quickly dissolved like morning mist. So you simply never know what kind of response you're going to get until you tell. It can be a gamble. But, on the other hand, it can also be astonishingly freeing. Plus it can show you who your true friends really are because they're the ones who will stick with you regardless. I think that's about as much as I can say. 
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Oct 15, 2020 at 07:29 PM
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Well I think we are obligated to disclose mental health issues or physical issues to someone we are planning on entering legal union with, such as your spouse. They really do need to know. I believe one isn’t obligated to disclose anything to anyone unless example of a legal union above or when you are subpoenaed or under oath. Other than that no need to disclose unless you feel like it.
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Oct 15, 2020 at 11:44 PM
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Oct 16, 2020 at 04:15 PM
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What if we're talking about personality disorder? Somehow I feel like it could improve my relationships or at least put more meaning into them since I've been struggling for years... on the other hand I think it could scare them, big time.
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Oct 16, 2020 at 07:39 PM
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I think it’s a risk to tell individuals who may not understand mental health challenges. It could set you up to be hurt and interfere with your effort to improve yourself.
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Nov 11, 2020 at 01:21 PM
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I think its good to talk about your problems to somebody close, its like a huge weight that lifts off your shoulders.
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