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Default Dec 03, 2020 at 08:39 AM
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My daughter didn’t send thank you cards. I know it’s bad. She isn’t a nasty or unappreciative person though, just by the day she got to it it with both working full time and in graduate school at night, it felt way too late to do it. She is a widow now, so in a long run who cares about thank you cards? Bigger fish to fry

Personally I can’t care less for people sending me thank you cards. People focus on formalities too much. I hate getting ton of useless mail

PS Actually my daughter is getting married again, they better send thank you cards this time lol although they might just elope. Wedding was cancelled already once due to covid. It was supposed to be last Sunday
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I think its okay celebrate with him, but i think you need to think about the marriage bandwagon he is in. He is going to cheat on his partner with you if you are not careful. It might be best to let him go if he has a partner already.
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Default Dec 05, 2020 at 12:19 AM
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I think its okay celebrate with him, but i think you need to think about the marriage bandwagon he is in. He is going to cheat on his partner with you if you are not careful. It might be best to let him go if he has a partner already.
Why would his friend cheat on his wife with OP? What are you saying? They have no romantic desires for each other, why would they develop it after one of them married? I can’t grasp what you are saying? These guys are former college mates, not lovers
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Default Dec 05, 2020 at 01:21 AM
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You’re not wrong to feel hurt about their not sending a thank you. Doesn’t everybody know if someone gives you a gift, you say thank you, whether it be verbal or a note like for a wedding? Heck if you read the Bride’s magazines (and I’d think everyone planning a wedding does), they tell you to thank people for gifts.

Maybe you’ll end up going to the wedding and meeting someone nice. Wait to send back the r.s.v.p. Closer to the date they asked (Did they send an invitation with an r.s.v.p. Card?)

The only invitation my cousin sent was a simple email and that wasn’t because of low budget resources. That’s how much she hates the formalities.
Thank you so much once again for validating my feelings. Again it’s just wonderful to know someone like you who just seemed to read my mind! I feel the same way too about thank you’s. In a way it seems I get two completely different sets of the same person, one who would shower me with gratitude in person and the other who just doesn’t even bother with sending appreciation for my support in someone’s life event. It’s not only disheartening but in this perspective confusing I’m not getting the same person that I thought I knew. Maybe I should pitch in with mags for the grooms as well!

And good thing you asked. They didn’t send any invite or rsvp, but since the guy asked for my address he will probably use it again for something else later like an actual invite.

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Default Dec 05, 2020 at 01:27 AM
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And thanks for your input as well divine. Again for someone who I’m not as close to anymore the pressure has come off a bit. I’m sorry for your daughter that she had to go through a loss like that, but glad that she has been able to find love again. Eloping might be the safest thing to do in this day and age. Maybe she can use the thank you notes for your attendance as well as families in spirit! Lol

And you understood correctly, divine, both of us are guys.

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And thanks for your input as well divine. Again for someone who I’m not as close to anymore the pressure has come off a bit. I’m sorry for your daughter that she had to go through a loss like that, but glad that she has been able to find love again. Eloping might be the safest thing to do in this day and age. Maybe she can use the thank you notes for your attendance as well as families in spirit! Lol

And you understood correctly, divine, both of us are guys.
Well many guys are romantically involved but you never said you had such interests. I am so confused where’s that coming from

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Thank you notes for attendance on zoom hahah it might come to that. Weddings on zoom
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