A Crush

Have Hope · Oct 25, 2020 at 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by MsLady

He's clearly not ok with himself.

No, he is not ok with himself. People who abuse and mistreat are typically MOST insecure and have a very deep sense of inferiority and inadequacy. Therefore, they cover up their feelings of inadequacy by putting someone else down in order to feel more powerful and in control. And yes, the attention seeking is all a part of building up his self esteem and self importance because it's so low. It's a self esteem and self image problem.

MsLady · Oct 25, 2020 at 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Have Hope

No, he is not ok with himself. People who abuse and mistreat are typically MOST insecure and have a very deep sense of inferiority and inadequacy. Therefore, they cover up their feelings of inadequacy by putting someone else down in order to feel more powerful and in control. And yes, the attention seeking is all a part of building up his self esteem and self importance because it's so low. It's a self esteem and self image problem.

100% true

Buffy01 · Oct 27, 2020 at 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by MsLady

That would make me a fool. She's not the key problem and it's unrealistic for me to talk with anyone who flirts with him. The problem is him and so I've spoken to him.

Having said that, I've already been made a fool behind my back.. that I'm insecure and jealous of him talking with friends. The joke is on me.

That wouldn't make you a fool or the joke on you. It would be on him. If either one had any boundaries they would be understanding an accusing you of being jealous.

MsLady · Oct 27, 2020 at 08:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Buffy01

That wouldn't make you a fool or the joke on you. It would be on him. If either one had any boundaries they would be understanding an accusing you of being jealous.

I don't want to participate in it. It's childish and it's clear they both need attention. I'm starting not to care.

Have Hope · Oct 28, 2020 at 05:52 AM

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Originally Posted by MsLady

I'm starting not to care.

As odd as it sounds, since you have an exit plan, it probably is good to step back emotionally from the issue and not care as much. It seems as though you may be detaching yourself much more from him and you're seeing him objectively, like you're observing his behaviors from afar. He's going to do what he's going to do. It's sad he needs so much attention. His ego must be very damaged in general. Sad.

Prycejosh1987 · Nov 11, 2020 at 12:29 PM

Be open with him, you should not accept him to be flirting with other women. Talking to them is one thing but flirting. You have to tell him your concerns.

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Prycejosh1987 Member Member Since Jul 2020 Location: UK Posts: 368 3	Nov 11, 2020 at 12:29 PM #26 Be open with him, you should not accept him to be flirting with other women. Talking to them is one thing but flirting. You have to tell him your concerns.
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