A black hole instead of a new leaf

Trust, honesty, sympathy and love all can be developed, and I believe, as an adult.

People who want to change and grow, can..... I do believe in people fulfilling their full potential. It can take work to develop these traits.

A step can involve placing yourself in the other person's shoes, and imagining what they are going through, as something happening to YOU. That's not sympathy, but it's empathy. Doing so, enables one to start to feel something emotionally, if imagined as happening to yourself. This enables you to be able to relate to someone on a more emotional level.

Trust involves being honest yourself with people you interact with, and expecting honesty in return. It's a two-way street.

And love can be boundless - I love my friends for the loving, generous and kind people that they are, as an example. I love who they are... I love watching them dance and be in their element when we go out for music. It's amazing to love your friends for all that they represent and are. Love can be platonic.... and romantic of course.

And sympathy is simply being able to extend oneself in a heart-feeling moment towards another who is in pain.

So. these traits can all be developed in my opinion. It will take therapy and practice.... but one can change how one is if one allows their heart to grow wider and to be a bit vulnerable.

And that may also require some healing of the heart too. For a wounded heart is one that protects itself through various defense mechanisms, narcissism being one.

This is because therapists can only give insights and advice, the change starts and ends with you, and you alone.