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Are you young? What he did is very immature. Maybe in a sick way, he purposely invited you to get you angry watching him exhibit how he is not into you. That sucks.
then he tried to tell me if were meant to be together, god will put us together. Really, he’s just too wild for me. I don’t like guys who have to party like that it’s my pet peeve...he acts like he’s 21....I don’t see him slowing down anytime soon. Even if we were friends and hanging...we have nothing in common anymore. I’m not living the rest of my days partying like this...there’s more to life
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There’s a show I like to watch, 90 Day Fiancé. This reminds me of a recent episode with Darcy and Tom, also over 40 y/o. Tom did the same thing ignoring her and dancing with other women and she was very upset. He had ego issues and was a hopeless player, and never married. You should watch it and try to laugh because it’s so ridiculous. You deserve better.

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There’s a show I like to watch, 90 Day Fiancé. This reminds me of a recent episode with Darcy and Tom, also over 40 y/o. Tom did the same thing ignoring her and dancing with other women and she was very upset. He had ego issues and was a hopeless player, and never married. You should watch it and try to laugh because it’s so ridiculous. You deserve better.
Thanks, I’ll watch it for laughs. This guy DEFINITELY has ego issues, and when I think about it, I know he has bragged about women fighting over him in a bar when he was younger. So, my feeling is he was trying to get a reaction even though he told me he didn’t care who I danced with 🙄 and what I didn’t get is how he seemed to pick unattractive women 🤷🏼*♀️ But of course I made myself look desperate by cutting in every time..he didn’t give AF because he continued to do it. If he really gave a crap about me he would have gotten the idea. In any case, he has some serious ego issues and Is always bragging about himself, sending selfie’s, etc which tells me he just wants attention. I am only sorry that I reacted the way I did. I really looked weak and gave up my power. He saw nothing wrong with what he did, but blamed me for refusing to leave and making a big thing out of it. Clearly we are from two different planets 😏
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There’s a show I like to watch, 90 Day Fiancé. This reminds me of a recent episode with Darcy and Tom, also over 40 y/o. Tom did the same thing ignoring her and dancing with other women and she was very upset. He had ego issues and was a hopeless player, and never married. You should watch it and try to laugh because it’s so ridiculous. You deserve better.
Hahaha I like my dose of trash TV too. This dude is so terrible isn’t he
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Hahaha I like my dose of trash TV too. This dude is so terrible isn’t he
He is for sure. I should have friend zoned him a long time ago. He talks crap about his exes, but he doesn’t know what to do with a mentally stable (mostly) woman. Don’t take your blessings foregranted
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He is for sure. I should have friend zoned him a long time ago. He talks crap about his exes, but he doesn’t know what to do with a mentally stable (mostly) woman. Don’t take your blessings foregranted
I was talking about the guy from a tv show Tisha mentioned.

But in your case I do not think you should friend zone this dude. You should go no contact. He doesn’t treat you well enough to be in a friend zone
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Hahaha I like my dose of trash TV too. This dude is so terrible isn’t he
The tv show— Guilty pleasures!

If anyone went with me to a club and ignored me and flaunted other women in front of me, he’d not be anymore friend of mine!

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Hi Disney!
I'd also recommend taking time to put down in writing all the bad qualities and ways you are disrespected. It can be VERY helpful when you are tempted to trust him. You are right, he will not change. People like that never truly do (maybe they can fake it for awhile, but their true nature WILL win out.)

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I was talking about the guy from a tv show Tisha mentioned.

But in your case I do not think you should friend zone this dude. You should go no contact. He doesn’t treat you well enough to be in a friend zone
No he doesn’t deserve it, but I didn’t really mean it literal, kind of as a metphor if that makes sense 🤷🏼*♀️
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I was talking about the guy from a tv show Tisha mentioned.

But in your case I do not think you should friend zone this dude. You should go no contact. He doesn’t treat you well enough to be in a friend zone
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The tv show— Guilty pleasures!

If anyone went with me to a club and ignored me and flaunted other women in front of me, he’d not be anymore friend of mine!
Facts! and apparently he thought he was doing nothing wrong, but I’m not stupid. Maybe he is 🤷🏼*♀️🤦*♀️ I really feel he was trying to get attention even though he says he saw I was having fun, and wanted me to be happy 🙄 I was trying to make the best of it so I was dancing with other people. It’s no coincidence that he was hopping from girl to pathetic girl.
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Hi Disney!
I'd also recommend taking time to put down in writing all the bad qualities and ways you are disrespected. It can be VERY helpful when you are tempted to trust him. You are right, he will not change. People like that never truly do (maybe they can fake it for awhile, but their true nature WILL win out.)

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Thanks! It’s sad, because we were close (his words) all BS. He just likes to have his fragile ego constantly boosted. He made it a point to tell me how I gained weight. No sh**! Who didn’t gain weight during the pandemic?? So he will rub his workout efforts in my face all the time. I am not going to allow him to make me gain weight. Which was a big part of the reason I gained weight. Anyhow, as my therapist told me the other day , I need to stay busy & distract myself
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Thanks! It’s sad, because we were close (his words) all BS. He just likes to have his fragile ego constantly boosted. He made it a point to tell me how I gained weight. No sh**! Who didn’t gain weight during the pandemic?? So he will rub his workout efforts in my face all the time. I am not going to allow him to make me gain weight. Which was a big part of the reason I gained weight. Anyhow, as my therapist told me the other day , I need to stay busy & distract myself
In the episode on the tv show I mentioned, Tom tells her she ‘looks like she put on a few pounds!’ Grrrrrr Flush him!

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I'd also recommend taking time to put down in writing all the bad qualities and ways you are disrespected. It can be VERY helpful when you are tempted to trust him. You are right, he will not change. People like that never truly do (maybe they can fake it for awhile, but their true nature WILL win out.)

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In the episode on the tv show I mentioned, Tom tells her she ‘looks like she put on a few pounds!’ Grrrrrr Flush him!
Wow!! He thinks he is gods gift to women or something..yet none of them (not to be mean) are attractive at all. Guess that makes him look like more of a prize in their eyes or something. I have been trying to lose weight, but I have been so stressed so not anymore buddy
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It’s not his business who gains weight. Why is he even still a part of your life
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It’s not his business who gains weight. Why is he even still a part of your life
This was months ago. I’m not an idiot, I know I need to lose weight, but he’s not perfect either.
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This was months ago. I’m not an idiot, I know I need to lose weight, but he’s not perfect either.
The point isn’t that you have or don’t have to lose weight. Even if he himself has perfect weight, unless he is your physician it’s not his place
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It’s just a really rude thing to say to someone, especially a man to a woman. It looks poorly for him. YOU may want to lose weight, but it’s rude for anyone else to say it to you.

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It’s just a really rude thing to say to someone, especially a man to a woman. It looks poorly for him. YOU may want to lose weight, but it’s rude for anyone else to say it to you.
You know what Trish, thinking about it he would do all kinds of mean things. It’s no reflection of me but rather of his bruised ego & self esteem. I would tell him a million times I would like to go with him to one of the events that his friend (he has connections) would invite him to. Never once did I get invited, and his friends would always ask if I went! I’m sure they found it strange. Then when he went he would post pictures/stories on social media telling his other friend (female) to stop by in the comments. Even went as far as to send me a picture and to brag about how fun it was. Who does this?? Then he would gaslight me like something was wrong with me. I always thought “well maybe I’m overreacting” or too pushy etc..but my gut feeling was right..it was mean and he knew I would react, but I think he did it to keep me hooked and obsessed.
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You know what Trish, thinking about it he would do all kinds of mean things. It’s no reflection of me but rather of his bruised ego & self esteem. I would tell him a million times I would like to go with him to one of the events that his friend (he has connections) would invite him to. Never once did I get invited, and his friends would always ask if I went! I’m sure they found it strange. Then when he went he would post pictures/stories on social media telling his other friend (female) to stop by in the comments. Even went as far as to send me a picture and to brag about how fun it was. Who does this?? Then he would gaslight me like something was wrong with me. I always thought “well maybe I’m overreacting” or too pushy etc..but my gut feeling was right..it was mean and he knew I would react, but I think he did it to keep me hooked and obsessed.
By his words and actions he sounds like only bad news. What did he do to keep you hooked and obsessed?

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It’s just a really rude thing to say to someone, especially a man to a woman. It looks poorly for him. YOU may want to lose weight, but it’s rude for anyone else to say it to you.
What he did was, he would keep me guessing by giving me just enough attention to keep me interested. When I would start to pull back, then he starts giving me a lot of attention as if he’s interested. Load of crap. My friend said to tell him to go f himself lol 🤷🏼*♀️ I didn’t but he would deserve it. No wonder he can’t keep a girl
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