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Legendary Wise Elder
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Dec 01, 2020 at 07:27 PM
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I think we are all confused because you first said you want to get married but he refuses to speak about it because he needs to resolve some issues first. But now it turns out that it’s not the case.
So I think we are misunderstanding because we aren’t sure what’s going on. You are saying he is planning on proposing BUT refuses to talk about marriage. I am very confused. Typically if people propose, they talk about marriage. How is he proposing marriage but refuses to discuss marriage? |
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Dec 01, 2020 at 09:14 PM
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You are allowed to not be ready. Maybe you are not ready because somehow, having lived with him, the idea of life with him just doesn't make you feel the way that you want to feel about your husband? |
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Dec 02, 2020 at 11:12 AM
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It seems you keep blaming yourself. There is nothing wrong in having doubts. This is (ideally) your whole life we are talking about... So, of course it is important to be sure. It was striking to me, in your first post, how he has all the cards: HE says you're not ready, HE says you give him cold feet, HE doesn't want to talk about it until you solve YOUR issues. It seems he has a lot of 'power' in this relationship.. How I see it is, IF you have doubts about him then maybe he is not the 'right' one for you. |
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Dec 02, 2020 at 11:38 AM
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It sounds like he refuses to propose and has different excuses every time. First he says YOU weren’t ready. Then he said he has to fix something first. Then he doesn’t want you to talk about it. Excuse after excuse.
I think after 3.5 years it might be time to move on |
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Dec 04, 2020 at 11:18 AM
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There is no best age to get married, for some it will be later for others it will be earlier. I think it depends on status and finances and if both people are willing to spend their lives together, and holy matrimony, till death do them part, for richer or poorer, etc.
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