"Friend" wanted me to contact her - then answers shortly and impersonal

I met a woman when I was at university some years ago and we hang out a few times. I never saw her as a friend, just like a schoolmate.

But many years after we ended our university studies she contacted me and we talked by phone a few times. When she moved closer to where I live she suggested we could meet.

We now recently talked on the phone and she told me I could get back to her about my meeting with an employment coach to tell her how things went.

I thought that sounded positive and by that I texted her about the meeting and how it went.

I of course began with asking how her day has been. She answered shortly to that and commented on my meeting with the employment coach.

But she didn't ask me any questions at all. I texted back and commented on what she had written about her day and also about my meeting but as she didn't ask me any questions I didn't either. (As I've also had already asked about her day).

Then she answers back with like "standard" comments and in a "polite and appropriate" way which made me ignore her text.

It was HER who asked me to contact her about how my meeting went but then she didn't seem that interested.

I got angry about it all so I texted her and said like "this isn't interesting to you but I wanted to tell you as we talked about my upcoming meeting earlier on." "Never mind".

She just upsets me although it's SHE who wanted us to talk on the phone and then that I could tell her how the meeting went.

I've ended all contacts with "friends" because of similar situations like this. People never engage in a deeper and thoughtful way and they just disappoint me.

Now of course this person doesn't text me back. I ended **** like this several years ago and now don't have any friends at all but that's because it always ends up this way.

It sounded as she did comment about the meeting. And it also sounds that she replied to your original text when you informed her about the meeting. You said you texted her about the meeting and she commented on it. I am not sure what questions she didn’t ask. Like more questions about the meeting?

I am honestly failing to understand where she went wrong by just being polite and appropriate. You said she isn’t a friend but just someone you know.

So maybe her responses lacked warmth but is it how she always talks? I have a friend who I actually consider a friend and she has this weird way of texting (she NEVER speaks like this in person or on the phone, only in texts or emails) she responds to a lot of info with “I am glad to hear it” or “I am sorry to hear it”. She just retired after 35 years as a lawyer and I sometimes feel that she is cautious in written communication because she got into a habit of it for professional reasons. She is way more personal in person

So I am not sure if this lady truly didn’t care or just responded in the way of how she communicates?

Some people don’t like long text “conversations “. Why not just call and converse. That’s how you said you previously spoke.

It sounds like she's still an "acquaintance" rather than a "friend".. and sometimes makes conversations seem "polite" and on the surface.

Instead of developing expectations that may be premature, take time to develop this relationship until you both see each other as a valuable friend.

If you're too quick to judge and get angry, the problem becomes yours and these acquaintances will look the other way.

Maybe its just you overthinking things, its hard to show emotions and feelings in texts. My first courtship was like that, but it was one text it was a barrage of texts that were bad because i zoomed her often and she generally look like she didnt care.