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#21
The problem with him trying to divert you away from talking about your sexual feelings, is that it might give you the message that your feelings are too much or not ok, which is the opposite of what you need to hear.
Also, using the term 'wrong path', suggests that having sexual or loving feelings towards him are/were bad or wrong, which again is not helpful. I wonder if he felt uneasy because of his own feelings? I'm glad things are getting better. A paper I read years ago compared the relationship between male therapist and female patient to that of father and adolescent daughter, which I can relate to. __________________ "It is a joy to be hidden but a disaster not to be found." D.W. Winnicott |
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Yes I'll have to get further clarification from him.
There were many times where we had these discussions lightly, but it was when I felt things more intensely and the sessions were more focused on these feelings when he diverted me off the wrong path (whatever that is). |
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Forgot to say that he told me that my trauma history is a lot worse than he is used to in comparison with his other clients. I think that had something to do with his reactions since it was part of the conversation.
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Thanks.
I tried another therapist, but it was just boring. I didn't click with him at all. Things are working better with us now, and I have been seeing him again. |
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“The wrong path” - no idea even what that is. And I doubt if they do either.
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