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Old 10-17-2018, 07:43 AM #11
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Aye, thinking about the end is completely unbearable honestly, makes me sick to my stomach. After our ending that turned out to be just a long break (and after reassessment for continued place with T) it took much longer than expected to actually get an appointment. I eventually caved and contacted him. It was an ordeal and that's when I had hope of going back. Also T said that when clients time runs out with charity before they've finished, he'll offer to see them privately. However he immediately said I wouldn't get that offer (which I thought a little cruel).

Did he explain why you wouldn't get that offer?
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Did he explain why you wouldn't get that offer?
no. I assume it's because he doesn't trust me. As it happens I couldn't afford to see him privately, but that's besides the point tbh.
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I agree that not explaining a statement like that is cruel, and highly unprofessional. I would not let him just get away with it and would insist to get an explanation.

As for the intrusive thoughts, it depends what kinds. Since you put this in the romantic subforum, I assume the thoughts have that nature? I never had many romantic/sexual thoughts about my Ts but when I did occasionally, I would not fight them and actually just indulge in the fantasies and thought about their meaning. Mine were very clear, explicit transference fantasies and did not show anything I had not known already. They did not hurt anyone and typically came and dissipated quickly. Negative/disturbing/painful thoughts would be a very different issue.
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I agree that not explaining a statement like that is cruel, and highly unprofessional. I would not let him just get away with it and would insist to get an explanation.

As for the intrusive thoughts, it depends what kinds. Since you put this in the romantic subforum, I assume the thoughts have that nature? I never had many romantic/sexual thoughts about my Ts but when I did occasionally, I would not fight them and actually just indulge in the fantasies and thought about their meaning. Mine were very clear, explicit transference fantasies and did not show anything I had not known already. They did not hurt anyone and typically came and dissipated quickly. Negative/disturbing/painful thoughts would be a very different issue.
Even he admitted he'd "dangled a carrot and snatched it away". I doubt recall what he said afterwards though, I was in a stuck place by then. Thoughts range from just being with him in the room to more "physical"ones. They have stopped now though, its relieving but odd if you know what I mean?
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Ugh. Didn't get around to bringing it up, but only because we kinda got onto something that seemed at least equally important. On reflection it ties in to what we've started on (another ball in the air) so will be included in notes for next week. Also I pulled him up on having changed from saying the end was more than likely to sounding more certain, he sort of said that's because it is certain and he'd get confirmation. Didn't sound like he was going to fight for me though, maybe he's finally bored. I kinda half expected it though, a point I illustrated for next week. (Tried to upload pic but can't on mobile for some reason.)
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