Sexual relationship with T - Page 6 - Forums at Psych Central



advertisement
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 01-29-2019, 09:13 AM #51
Echos Myron redux Echos Myron redux is online now
Grand Poohbah
 
Member Since: Apr 2018
Location: UK
Posts: 1,801
Echos Myron redux Echos Myron redux is online now
Grand Poohbah
Echos Myron redux is tired
 
Member Since: Apr 2018
Location: UK
Posts: 1,801 (SuperPoster!)

1 yr Member
1,614 hugs
given
Default Re: Sexual relationship with T

Quote:
Originally Posted by DP_2017 View Post
Uh that's a bit ridiculous to assume everyone in therapy is child like. I for one am not and don't appreciate that assumption.
Where do they say everyone is?
Echos Myron redux is online now   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:

advertisement
Old 01-29-2019, 12:04 PM #52
blackocean blackocean is offline
Member
 
Member Since: Aug 2018
Location: USA
Posts: 186
blackocean blackocean is offline
Member
blackocean has no updates.
 
Member Since: Aug 2018
Location: USA
Posts: 186

21 hugs
given
Default Re: Sexual relationship with T

Quote:
Originally Posted by DP_2017 View Post
Ive never been the blame type unless I'm fully blaming myself.
This is actually a vulnerability
blackocean is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 02-10-2019, 07:29 PM #53
Topiarysurvivor Topiarysurvivor is offline
Member
 
Member Since: Sep 2013
Posts: 446
Topiarysurvivor Topiarysurvivor is offline
Member
Topiarysurvivor has no updates.
 
Member Since: Sep 2013
Posts: 446

5 yr Member
42 hugs
given
Default Re: Sexual relationship with T

Quote:
Originally Posted by precaryous View Post
This is a good source!
Topiarysurvivor is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 02-11-2019, 12:40 AM #54
Ididitmyway's Avatar
Ididitmyway Ididitmyway is offline
Magnate
 
Member Since: Jul 2011
Posts: 2,071
Ididitmyway Ididitmyway is offline
Magnate
Ididitmyway's Avatar
Ididitmyway has no updates.
 
Member Since: Jul 2011
Posts: 2,071

5 yr Member
128 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Re: Sexual relationship with T

Quote:
Originally Posted by Topiarysurvivor View Post
This is a good source!
Yes, it is. I got a lot of help from them when I realized I was exploited by my ex-T. I got support and legal consultation.
__________________
www.therapyconsumerguide.com

Bernie Sanders/Tulsi Gabbard 2020
Ididitmyway is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 02-14-2019, 06:10 AM #55
Topiarysurvivor Topiarysurvivor is offline
Member
 
Member Since: Sep 2013
Posts: 446
Topiarysurvivor Topiarysurvivor is offline
Member
Topiarysurvivor has no updates.
 
Member Since: Sep 2013
Posts: 446

5 yr Member
42 hugs
given
Default Re: Sexual relationship with T

Quote:
Originally Posted by Ididitmyway View Post
Thank you for posting this warning. We don't have enough of those warnings, so they are always needed.

Unfortunately, as you said, people usually don't heed it.

The fantasy of having a sexual relationship with one's therapist is one thing, but when it turns into reality that's a completely different story. Some people believe that the actual sexual engagement with the therapist would make everything better, because it'd be more "honest" than just to suffer an unrequited love, and while I am not someone who sees transference as a healthy thing, I know that turning transference fantasies into reality would harm you even more than tolerating the humiliating experience of your feelings not being returned. I don't know this from my own experience since I never had a sexual relationship with any of my therapists, but I've heard countless stories of people who have had that experience. None of those stories had a happy ending. NONE.

What I'd like everyone who entertains such fantasies to know is that before you decide to act them out remember that in case of a break up (which will come inevitably) you won't be able to deal with the ending the same way people deal with it in regular relationships.

In other relationships, when people date and break up, it starts differently and it ends differently. It starts on the equal footing right away and when things go wrong, people may get hurt, but they don't have the same sense of betrayal you will have if your sexual partner is your former therapist. The trauma you will go through when the relationship ends (which, trust me, it will) will be unparalleled to any other break ups. And, as others said, no one will be there for you. Our society is not evolved enough to understand that kind of trauma and to give you the support you need and our justice system is not equipped to deal with those cases.

Again, this was not my experience, but I've dealt with this issue for about 7 years now listening to people's stories, reading what is available on the subject, talking to those who have been trying to raise awareness about sexual abuse in therapy and writing about it on my blog as well. With all that, I feel like I understand the issue pretty well.
Thank you - perfectly said. And I don't think I would have listened. I thought I was different. If you had told me how far down I could go, I don't think I would have believed you. I had already survived an abusive marriage and come out strong. I thought I was strong enough to handle any feelings or complications.
But let's keep trying to put the message out there.
Topiarysurvivor is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Hugs from:
"Thanks for this!" says:
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off



All times are GMT -5. The time now is 01:52 AM.

Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

advertisement

Psych Central Forums

Psych Central is the leading mental health website, overseen by mental health professionals since 1995.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider. .

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.
Please read the full disclaimer.