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Default Jan 06, 2019 at 02:10 PM
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It has been since mid-October since I had my last session with my previous therapist. I still continue to think about her daily. I can't stop myself from thinking about her even if I wanted to. My past therapist is warm and very caring. I learned valuable things such as gratitude and perseverance from her. My past therapist is an inspirational woman. One of the main reasons why I miss her is because I have romantic feelings for her. Being pulled apart from the person I love the most is strenuously difficult to deal with. Not only do I miss talking to her weekly but I miss seeing her too.

I miss seeing that radiant smile that she would welcome me with whenever she opened the door for me to come in. She was the sunshine of my life. In my eyes, she is exceedingly beautiful. Her outfits were so well put together that I see her as glamorous and elegant. She is everything I want in a romantic partner. My past therapist told me that I can email her every 2 months to say how I am doing. I did that about 2-3 weeks ago. I was reflecting about her during New Year's Eve and going into 2019. She was so integral to my life and I find it sad that now she is in the background of my life. I miss having the presence of such a lovely individual in my life. I love her.

I can't stop thinking about her. It is affecting a lot with my new therapist. I know that I have other things that I need to talk about such as my past and why I feel depressed often but I always feel this need to talk about how much I miss my past therapist. My past therapist is the person that I love the most in life. I cannot stop thinking about her even if I wanted to.
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Default Jan 06, 2019 at 04:38 PM
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Sorry you are going through such a rough time.

Sounds like you’re grieving the loss of your previous therapist.
Have you tried talking about this with your current therapist?
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Sorry you are going through such a rough time.

Sounds like you’re grieving the loss of your previous therapist.
Have you tried talking about this with your current therapist?
Yes that is what I usually talk about with my current therapist.
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Default Jan 06, 2019 at 05:26 PM
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It sounds like your previous therapist was very helpful to you, so why did you stop seeing her?

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Default Jan 07, 2019 at 05:22 PM
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I´m sorry you´re going thorugh this and for what your T did to you, I assume there was an involuntary termination. I go through a similar situation as my T abruptly ended therapy with me in September and as you I think about her every day.

Sometimes there´s grief, sometimes there´s more of anger towards her. But as you describe I saw her as a very important person in my life and as a person who had a lot of good qualities as a therapist and as a human being.

You´re "lucky" to have a new T to talk to about your loss and your grief, me and a lot of other people on this forum are left without any support. Perhaps this new T isn´t that much of a comfort in this heightened grief of yours but in the long run she´ll be.

But I understand the longing and the sad and hard fact that no other will be like your former T. I think there are too many therapists who practise in a reckless way and who first and foremost protect themselves when termination is a fact.

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It has been since mid-October since I had my last session with my previous therapist. I still continue to think about her daily. I can't stop myself from thinking about her even if I wanted to. My past therapist is warm and very caring. I learned valuable things such as gratitude and perseverance from her. My past therapist is an inspirational woman. One of the main reasons why I miss her is because I have romantic feelings for her. Being pulled apart from the person I love the most is strenuously difficult to deal with. Not only do I miss talking to her weekly but I miss seeing her too.

I miss seeing that radiant smile that she would welcome me with whenever she opened the door for me to come in. She was the sunshine of my life. In my eyes, she is exceedingly beautiful. Her outfits were so well put together that I see her as glamorous and elegant. She is everything I want in a romantic partner. My past therapist told me that I can email her every 2 months to say how I am doing. I did that about 2-3 weeks ago. I was reflecting about her during New Year's Eve and going into 2019. She was so integral to my life and I find it sad that now she is in the background of my life. I miss having the presence of such a lovely individual in my life. I love her.

I can't stop thinking about her. It is affecting a lot with my new therapist. I know that I have other things that I need to talk about such as my past and why I feel depressed often but I always feel this need to talk about how much I miss my past therapist. My past therapist is the person that I love the most in life. I cannot stop thinking about her even if I wanted to.
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I´m sorry you´re going thorugh this and for what your T did to you, I assume there was an involuntary termination. I go through a similar situation as my T abruptly ended therapy with me in September and as you I think about her every day.

Sometimes there´s grief, sometimes there´s more of anger towards her. But as you describe I saw her as a very important person in my life and as a person who had a lot of good qualities as a therapist and as a human being.

You´re "lucky" to have a new T to talk to about your loss and your grief, me and a lot of other people on this forum are left without any support. Perhaps this new T isn´t that much of a comfort in this heightened grief of yours but in the long run she´ll be.

But I understand the longing and the sad and hard fact that no other will be like your former T. I think there are too many therapists who practise in a reckless way and who first and foremost protect themselves when termination is a fact.
I really appreciate your concern for me. It makes me less alone as I cope with this issue. I just wanted to point out that my former therapist wasn’t being reckless because they told me 3 months ahead of time and I am not angry at her because we worked in the transition. Sorry if I wasn’t being clear on the termination.
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Default Jan 11, 2019 at 03:32 PM
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But why did she end it with you ?
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Default Jan 13, 2019 at 01:34 AM
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But why did she end it with you ?
She moved further and it became too far for me to drive to.
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