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Default It's been 18 months

And I thought I was doing okay.

Until I saw photos of him at my local uni.

Wham. My heart hurts.
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I am unsure of what happened 18 months ago but I'm sorry. Time doesn't HEAL all wounds as they say, it just becomes easier to manage them. There will always be times of sadness though.

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I am unsure of what happened 18 months ago but I'm sorry. Time doesn't HEAL all wounds as they say, it just becomes easier to manage them. There will always be times of sadness though.

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Thank you.

My T left private practice. He told me six months prior that he was leaving private practice and was letting his patients know to give him time to transfer them all to a new T.

I didn't want to. Then I did. Then I said I was done. I didn't like the replacement T, and I didn't want to go through pulling my guts out every fortnight.

Then I cried. God, I cried every day for months.

The final day was awful. Of course he was very nice, and said all the right things, but it still hurt. I felt like I was in a dream.

Then I was numb. Then I cried for months again.

Oh gee... this sucks.

If I had met him elsewhere, I'm sure he'd be the one for me, but of course, that's just my projection, probably.
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My T left too but I only had 2 weeks notice Today is 1 month since. It's tough.

Are you allowed to contact him ever again? Usually you can if you need therapy again down the road or X number of years has passed
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He didn't mention being in touch again. But he hopes to hear good things about me in the future. I don't know how. But I guess the fact the photos showed up at my local uni means he's still in the area and I would probably run into him one day. Not sure what I would say or do!
Sorry to hear yours was fairly abrupt
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Well it can't hurt to reach out again someday.... to see if he could see you again or to just send a thank you email/update. I for sure would
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He didn't leave any contact details. I know I could find him online and email him at his new job, but it feels intrusive.
I just hope he's well. And I wonder if he thinks of me sometimes.
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