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Default Erotic transference: Do you ever imagine your therapist masturbating?

I know this is part of erotic transference for some clients, I occasionally think about former therapists and that they likely have masturbated in their life. It´s not that I would want to be close to them in that way but I can sometimes find it "exctiting" to think about. Not randomly like on the bus but when on my own and there´s a romantic scene in some movie or similar.



Perhaps it makes me feel they´re human and more than just a therapist in their office. As an example I know one of my former therapist is living on her own, as she also did several years ago, and it´s likely she has those needs from time to time.



I let my thoughts go there sometimes as I know feeling ashamed won´t make them go away.



Has anyone else experienced this?
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No! i used to have a pdoc who used to put his feet up on the desk and touch himself. i only saw him a half a dozen times.
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Ewww no
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Default Re: Erotic transference: Do you ever imagine your therapist masturbating?

Maybe your imagining them masturbating is your mind’s way of humanizing them, making them vulnerable.

I have no shame about letting my mind go to any fantasy about whatever floats my boat. Nobody else knows what you’re thinking.
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Default Re: Erotic transference: Do you ever imagine your therapist masturbating?

Yes I do as a matter of fact, and I've got no shame about it. I find T very physically attractive, and a fantasy like that is pretty typical for me about people I feel physical attraction to.

I'd never bring it up to T as long as she's my T, but would have no problem discussing it if she asked me about my attraction... Which I'm positive she senses.

What I would have a difficult time discussing is the emotional attachment, which I consider a very separate subject from physical attraction.
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Default Re: Erotic transference: Do you ever imagine your therapist masturbating?

I have in the past yea
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I've thought about it with my ex-MC and current T, both male. I've also wondered if they ever thought about me when they did that.
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I've also wondered if they ever thought about me when they did that.
My friend used to say she thought my T probably did based on things he said/did with me... however, I find it very hard to believe ANY guy would think of me for that.... they may think of me if they are vomiting but not that.

The other thing is, no doubt our male T's do it.... it's just not a rabbit hole I like to go down in my mind. I think it could make things super weird if so
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NO! Make it stop! I now have that image rolling around in my head and I never did before and it is not pleasant at all.
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Default Re: Erotic transference: Do you ever imagine your therapist masturbating?

Thanks. Yes, I think it makes me feel more normal when thinking about like them masturbating or simple things like doing the dishes or taking the trash out. It´s not that I specifically fantasize about them because they´re therapists but more that I got attached to them. There´s also a frustration in this that I know I won´t ever be "the person they chose". It's a bit irrational as I wouldn´t want them to be in real life, like being their partner.


But my latest therapist is married and knowing that she already has "all she wants" makes me think like she still might not always have good sex and she sometimes chooses to masturbate instead. Those aren´t thoughts I frequently think about but they come from a mix between longing and jealousy about her being married. That I´ll never be part of her life in that way.



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Maybe your imagining them masturbating is your mind’s way of humanizing them, making them vulnerable.

I have no shame about letting my mind go to any fantasy about whatever floats my boat. Nobody else knows what you’re thinking.
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