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Default Nov 23, 2019 at 08:11 AM
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In theory yes, being honest is the best thing to do, but not so that your relationship can develop in the way you want (it would be unethical) but to work through why you're having these feelings and what they represent. I really hope your T is professional enough to not give you what you think you want, but help you understand these feelings you're having towards him.

Yes, this. Also, he could be a very different person outside the therapy room in his "real life." It's easy to build up a fantasy of someone whose job is to attend to your emotional needs. (Trust me, I've been there with those feelings...)
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Default Nov 23, 2019 at 10:52 PM
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Thank you all for your thoughtful responses. I understand what was meant by "what I want to happen" or similar words.(I can't scroll back) I appreciate all of your honesty. I know it's important to be within boundaries and I know he will. It's just very hard for me as I'm feeling very alone in this. I do know what's right and wrong. Maybe I'm just immature and dreaming.

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Default Nov 25, 2019 at 09:42 AM
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Thank you all for your thoughtful responses. I understand what was meant by "what I want to happen" or similar words.(I can't scroll back) I appreciate all of your honesty. I know it's important to be within boundaries and I know he will. It's just very hard for me as I'm feeling very alone in this. I do know what's right and wrong. Maybe I'm just immature and dreaming.

It doesn't make you immature at all. It's likely calling back to the part of you who didn't get your needs met as a child. Or who isn't getting them met as an adult. Or both. And your T seems to be meeting those needs, so it's natural to want more that goes beyond the boundaries of the T-client relationship.
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