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I feel like Iím stuck and have absolutely no motivation for anything I canít concentrate barley have left the house in weeks idk what to do my family thinks Iím just being lazy even when I do feel good enough to get done what needs to be done I just canít I always end up getting distracted or forgetting Iím paranoid all the time idk what to do
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Hello Sleepyspoon: I believe this is your first post, here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time. You didn't mention if you're seeing a therapist or a psychiatrist, or if you're on any kind of psych med's. If not, & given the severity of your difficulties at the present time, finding a mental health therapist to work with might be a good place to start. And then, if need be, consideration could also be given to getting you on some medication, at least temporarily... perhaps an antidepressant. These are the types of things people generally do when they're struggling with mental health issues. If, on the other hand, you're already receiving mental health services, then perhaps it's time to contact the mental health professionals in your life & let them know how much you are struggling at the moment.

Here are links to 4 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of motivation plus 1 article on the subject of social anxiety & paranoia:

https://psychcentral.com/blog/tips-f...ure-depressed/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/5-ideas...ssion-strikes/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relat...hen-depressed/

https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhaust...tion-try-this/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...iety-paranoia/

My best wishes to you...
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Whatís a good way to go inpatient without the er yeah Iím depressed but thatís not why I feel empty
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I feel like Iím stuck and have absolutely no motivation for anything I canít concentrate barley have left the house in weeks idk what to do my family thinks Iím just being lazy even when I do feel good enough to get done what needs to be done I just canít I always end up getting distracted or forgetting Iím paranoid all the time idk what to do
Hi Sleepyspoon, welcome to PC

Iím sorry that you are struggling with this, itís not an easy thing to overcome. And it sounds like, as well as motivation, you are also struggling with concentration, memory and your family thinking you are lazy. Well, I can empathise with all of that, unfortunately. I will share some strategies over the years that have helped me, but everyone is different so they might not necessarily help you as much, so you will need to experiment to find what works for you.

Motivation - I wasted a long time waiting for motivation to come to me before I would do something. I find that it very rarely does. Instead, I found that starting something, before having motivation, usually stimulates your motivation and then you want to do more things. This works with anything from boring housework to fun things like hobbies that you feel too apathetic to do. I like to craft and often have to force myself to start a project, but then I find myself getting into it and often then want to do something else creative.

Itís linked to an idea from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) called Ďdo it anywayí where you make steps towards your (value-oriented) goals regardless of how you feel. Often, as I said, motivation then appears, and you get into it, but even if you donít, you have still moved forward and achieved something, which is good for self esteem.

I struggle to leave the house most days, but I force myself to walk my dog in my local park as he loves it so much. Often being there makes me feel better by the time I get back home, and then itís much easier for me to leave the house a second time to do whatever it is that I need to do next.

Concentration - this can be a big issue too, but one thing that I found helpful for motivation is also good for concentration, and that is setting timers. The Ďruleí is that once the timer goes off, you can stop, guilt-free. I started setting a timer for 10mins and then a 20min break. Itís much easier to talk yourself into doing anything for only 10mins than it is a longer period. Iíve used this with everything from studying to housework to hobbies: itís very versatile.

Once the 10mins is up, you can stop without guilt that it was Ďonlyí 10 mins. If you donít set another timer that day, well, you still did 10mins, which is better than not doing anything at all. Often, as I said, motivation creeps in and I will do more, or multiple timers, either increasing the length, or sticking with 10mins if my concentration is poor.

On a really bad day, I canít even concentrate for 10mins, and I might call it a day. Itís hard to try to accept that, but I try to remind myself that at least I tried.

Iíve been struggling with concentration lately, but Iíve still had birthday cards to make. So to get around that, Iíve had to be more organised to start them earlier to allow only 10mins here and there. Yes, I made mistakes at times, and had days where I couldnít do any card making, but I have finished all of the things I needed to do so far, and Iím making progress on the next lot, even if it is taking me way longer than I would ideally like.

Memory - I struggle with my memory a lot and the only way Iíve found around that is to write down everything. I have daily to do lists, weekly to do lists, and I also set reminders on my phone, or alarms if I need to do something at a certain time. Some people donít like lists etc, but if I donít write it down, there is no way that Iím going to remember to do it! So lists are my friend. Some people find a long list to be overwhelming, and I get that as sometimes it can be. It also needs to be realistic as not achieving everything on your list each day can be demoralising.

I prefer to split each activity into its subsequent parts eg grocery shopping would be divided into Ďwrite shopping list, go grocery shopping, put away groceriesí. Personally, I get more sense of achievement out of ticking off 3 items than one, and some days, I wouldnít manage to do all 3 parts so if I only wrote down Ďgrocery shoppingí, then Iíd feel like I didnít do anything even if I did make the shopping list. But I know that doesnít work for everyone so youíd have to experiment a bit to see what works best for you.

Family - My family calls me lazy too. Sometimes I think that they are right, but mostly I know that I am trying my best and I donít feel that itís a fair label. I certainly never used to be lazy. I donít know how receptive your family would be to changing this, mine arenít, but you could try talking to them about this. Using ĎI statementsí might make them less defensive about it, such as ďI feel very hurt when you call me lazy. Iím really trying my best, but I find it very hard to do the things that I used to do. Please could you not say that anymore.Ē Iíve got to say though that it didnít work with my family: they tell me that they donít think Iím lazy (right after they call me lazy), and then the next day, they call me lazy again about something. Itís very frustrating, but I try not to listen to their nonsense.

The other option would be to ask your psychiatrist and/or therapist, if you have one, to talk with them; a kind of family intervention strategy. Iím assuming that you have been diagnosed with psychosis as you posted your question in this forum, so your treatment team could explain to them the negative and cognitive symptoms of psychosis that you are struggling with, and how that means that you arenít lazy. That might help if someone in a Ďposition of authorityí tells them youíre not lazy, if they wonít believe you.

The other thing to mention with these issues is medication. If you take medication, it can exacerbate these types of issues by making you overly sedated, foggy, apathetic, and lacking energy as side effects, and so the dose may need to be lowered, or the medication changed to something that causes less or none of these issues for you.

Unfortunately, psychosis can also cause all of these problems on its own. Sometimes itís really tricky to work out what is a medication side effect and what is a negative symptom. Negative and cognitive symptoms are notoriously hard to treat, but some of the atypical antipsychotics, like Abilify/aripiprazole may possibly help.

There is also the possibility of comorbid depression complicating things as depression after a psychotic episode is common, and depression can mess with motivation, concentration and memory too. So I would really recommend bringing up these issues with your prescriber to see if thereís a treatment angle to work as well as all of the self-help suggestions that Iíve given.

I wish you all of the best with this

*Willow*
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