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Old 06-10-2018, 10:34 PM #1
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Default I think my mom may be mentally ill.

I think my mom is not mentally well. I have thought this for a few years now but I was in denial or just really didnt know how to handle it, so I put in on the back burner. Here is why I think she may need help.

It started when she all of the sudden became obsessed with thinking that my step father was hiring people to kill her. He had hired a man to come look at their roof one day because he thought it needed to be fixed. My mom thought this man was creepy, and when he knocked on the door, she believed he was bad. She told him to leave or she would shoot him. After that incident, it became any random person who stopped by the house, was apparently hired my my step father to kill her.

Our family thought this was irrational but she was so convinced, and honestly scared,that we felt like we had no choice but to agree with her or she'd otherwise be upset with us. My mom and my step father ended up getting a divorce, even though my step father tried his hardest to convince her he wasnt trying to kill her and that he would never do that. I was heart broken. I knew something was off with my mom and deep down I knew she wasnt mentally right. She became obsessed with convincing us (me and my 2 brothers) that my step dad did really try to kill her. She wrote us pages upon pages of evidence or reasons why, almost weekly. It became all she ever talked about. It was very difficult on me because I loved my step father. I still to this day feel like we failed him by not intervening and trying to get my mom the help she needed. She now has a concealed weapons permit and carries a loaded gun with her in case someone tries to kill her again. Literally sleeps with it, under her pillow.

Years later, my mom got somewhat better. She only talks about my step dad once in a while but still needs reassurance that I believe her. "You know that what I'm saying is true, right?" is what I usually hear. I just go with it, because I know itd be a fight if I dont. But now, she has moved on to religion and politics. Daily rants, 100s of Facebook posts, and just irrational thoughts are what her days are made of. She believes Hilary Clinton is a part of a pedophile ring with elites in Hollywood who drink children's blood and also tortures them. I get messages from her every day obsessing over it. She listens to "authentic prophets" and obsesses over their "revelations" as well. She sees her hosts of angels daily. She has seen Jesus, and she believes she is chosen by God to help fight evil. She talks daily on how God is going to make her very very rich soon. This is every single day. I cannot talk to my mom and have a normal conversation without it somehow leading to her theories.

My grandmother ( my mom's mom) was diagnosed as a paranoid schizophrenic in her 50s. She believed the FBI was after her and they would watch her, and bug her house. She died when I was 2 of MS so I never knew what she was like but my mom use to tell me stories about how she had to deal with her moms mental illness. Shed tell me how hard it was for her to tell her mom that she needed help and when she finally did, her mom was so angry at her. My grandmother was on all kinds of medication and tried everything you can think of. She hated it according to my dad. So, now I think I am finding myself in my moms old shoes that she had to wear when she dealt with my grandmother. It's hard for me to believe that my own mom doesnt recognize her behavior especially since she dealt with her mom.

So, I guess I don't know what to do. My mom has no income, no car and she hardly ever leaves her apartment. She sits in that apartment and dwells on her theories and paranoias 24/7. This isnt the same happy and so full of life mother that I am use to having. I want my mom back but I fear losing her if I try to tell her she needs help. How do I even go about this? I am so lost.
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Default Re: I think my mom may be mentally ill.

It's understandable that you are so worried.

What about reaching out to her primary physician regarding your concerns? It's a start.
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