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Sometimes psychotic · Jan 31, 2019 at 07:57 PM

I think Newtus the things you associate with marriage are not the things that married people and especially divorced people associate with marriage and having been through it they are trying to warn you that the reality does not typically match the fantasy.

I think the fact that you’re considering a unity ceremony without an actual marriage at first should placate them. Worry about marriage once you no longer need to rely on parents or ssdi for money. It will happen.

newtus · Jan 31, 2019 at 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Sometimes psychotic

I think Newtus the things you associate with marriage are not the things that married people and especially divorced people associate with marriage and having been through it they are trying to warn you that the reality does not typically match the fantasy.

I think the fact that you’re considering a unity ceremony without an actual marriage at first should placate them. Worry about marriage once you no longer need to rely on parents or ssdi for money. It will happen.

Thats what i was thinking too. All that was what i was thinking.

ofthevalley · Jan 31, 2019 at 08:07 PM

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WHat path?

Because first she says, if i marry him ill be poverty.

But then she says if i live with him, ill be married by common law.

Everything is just bs. Im tired of it. Im just SICK of being belittled and treated like im second class and stupid. Everything is about money with her. Everything. Everyday its about money or how i have none or how im fat. Fck off ya know.

I dont think thats tough love if im getting called names!

Bf said not to call her for awhile.

Calling names is one thing. That’s never acceptable.
Being concerned for your future. Understandable.

Don’t call her. I wouldn’t put up with the name calling.

newtus · Jan 31, 2019 at 08:11 PM

I just had a breakdown on the phone with the bf.

I told him straight up about my mom and something i just realized.

All the fckin voices i hear when i got sick were my
Moms. My mom called me a fat pig once and all i heard for a year or two was voices telling me i was a fat pig loser. I cut my mom off for 3 years after high school. Best thing i ever did. Yea i was a little sad. But i was very sick, and i was afraid of her.

Findingreason · Jan 31, 2019 at 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Sometimes psychotic

I think Newtus the things you associate with marriage are not the things that married people and especially divorced people associate with marriage and having been through it they are trying to warn you that the reality does not typically match the fantasy.

I think the fact that you’re considering a unity ceremony without an actual marriage at first should placate them. Worry about marriage once you no longer need to rely on parents or ssdi for money. It will happen.

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Originally Posted by newtus

Thats what i was thinking too. All that was what i was thinking.

I agree with what SP said. I've been married to my wife for almost 3 years now. It's not really a big deal for us. For me she is my best friend; of whom I also share a close romantic relationship with. We spend a lot of time around each other, have conversations about technology, and just enjoy each other's company. And if not, we are being introverts doing our own things. The beginning of marriage is kind of an excitement and a little scary and overwhelming at the same time. But once you settle into a routine with your spouse it becomes a lot more normal and such. I don't even think about it much. The only reason recently I have been thinking about it is I am ready to soon adopt my wife's surname.

Just my two cents.

Findingreason · Jan 31, 2019 at 08:16 PM

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Originally Posted by newtus

I just had a breakdown on the phone with the bf.

I told him straight up about my mom and something i just realized.

All the fckin voices i hear when i got sick were my
Moms. My mom called me a fat pig once and all i heard for a year or two was voices telling me i was a fat pig loser. I cut my mom off for 3 years after high school. Best thing i ever did. Yea i was a little sad. But i was very sick, and i was afraid of her.

I'm sorry to hear about that, Newtus.

Sometimes psychotic · Jan 31, 2019 at 08:18 PM

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Originally Posted by newtus

I just had a breakdown on the phone with the bf.

I told him straight up about my mom and something i just realized.

All the fckin voices i hear when i got sick were my
Moms. My mom called me a fat pig once and all i heard for a year or two was voices telling me i was a fat pig loser. I cut my mom off for 3 years after high school. Best thing i ever did. Yea i was a little sad. But i was very sick, and i was afraid of her.

One thing that helps me is realizing my parents have their own issues...for example my dad is an alcoholic...I got my bipolar from his side of the family so he may be untreated bipolar...this helps humanize him for me.

Your mom has anger issues and alcohol issues too....maybe she too has a mood disorder but isn’t getting real treatment.

For me this allowed me to forgive my dad but I still keep him at a distance because he’s not in treatment and that’s not good for anyone.

newtus · Jan 31, 2019 at 08:19 PM

I appreciate everyones advice.

I meani already live with the bf, so it wouldnt be different i get that. But its the symbolism to me.

Well other than that, i would enjoy the benefits, i know he would too of marriage. Otherwise i get its not much different. But obviously a lot of people get married, even if they get divorced, so thats gotta be that symbolic magic to saying hey im married or he or she is mine for good. Pretty much i guess.

Anyway. Im not telling my mom if i get engaged. Its just bs to do that. She wont care...

newtus · Jan 31, 2019 at 08:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Sometimes psychotic

One thing that helps me is realizing my parents have their own issues...for example my dad is an alcoholic...I got my bipolar from his side of the family so he may be untreated bipolar...this helps humanize him for me.

Your mom has anger issues and alcohol issues too....maybe she too has a mood disorder but isn’t getting real treatment.

For me this allowed me to forgive my dad but I still keep him at a distance because he’s not in treatment and that’s not good for anyone.

Yes thats like my mom. Im closer to my dad for a reason.

If yall wanna know what my mom is like shes a lot like trump. Seriously shes good at lying and hyping herself up. Other than that its all a facade.

Sometimes psychotic · Jan 31, 2019 at 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by newtus

Yes thats like my mom. Im closer to my dad for a reason.

If yall wanna know what my mom is like shes a lot like trump. Seriously shes good at lying and hyping herself up. Other than that its all a facade.

Hate to get political but I feel extremely sorry for anyone who can compare their mom to trump....

Erti · Jan 31, 2019 at 08:38 PM

i think my mom has depression.

newtus · Jan 31, 2019 at 08:53 PM

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Hate to get political but I feel extremely sorry for anyone who can compare their mom to trump....

I feel like my mom has BPD

Desoxyn · Jan 31, 2019 at 09:10 PM

My dad is an alcoholic with probably schizotypal personality disorder. He has a lot of magical thinking. He's awesome. My mom is always manic and cries a lot about beautiful things. I love my mom.

Newtus your mom was so mean and eating away my soul with what she was saying in one of my dreams. I was like "You bich!" and I walked away.

Desoxyn · Jan 31, 2019 at 09:24 PM

Come to think of it, my aunt (Moms sister) is like my mom. Always manic and cries a lot about beautiful things. Her daughter (My cousin) was diagnosed bipolar 1 with psychosis.

Weird genetics.. My sister is always manic and cries a lot about beautiful things XD

It's like they're all taking MDMA I swear..

My grandmother on my moms side is depressed and cynical but in a funny way. She used to order Valium online.

ofthevalley · Jan 31, 2019 at 09:28 PM

I’m in bed

. So tired.
I don’t think my check will be in tomorrow. Not that it matters...I decided to get my son contacts so I’ll be spending it all on that next week.

Desoxyn · Jan 31, 2019 at 09:32 PM

My sister is a bich tho but I love her

Erti · Jan 31, 2019 at 09:37 PM

sounds like the females in your life cries a lot about beautiful things.

Desoxyn · Jan 31, 2019 at 09:49 PM

I miss the summer

Erti · Jan 31, 2019 at 10:27 PM

I can't wait for spring.

newtus · Jan 31, 2019 at 10:33 PM

Im so lost. Im so incredibly lost.

Idk what to do with my life. I have no idea. I just wish i knew what to do. Im lost.

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Erti Princess Tutu Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Nowhere Posts: 7,912 12 2,894 hugs given	Jan 31, 2019 at 08:38 PM #31 i think my mom has depression.

Desoxyn Metaphysic Member Since Aug 2016 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 12,980 (SuperPoster!) 7 4,908 hugs given	Jan 31, 2019 at 09:10 PM #33 My dad is an alcoholic with probably schizotypal personality disorder. He has a lot of magical thinking. He's awesome. My mom is always manic and cries a lot about beautiful things. I love my mom. Newtus your mom was so mean and eating away my soul with what she was saying in one of my dreams. I was like "You bich!" and I walked away.

ofthevalley Legendary Member Since Feb 2015 Location: USA Posts: 11,326 (SuperPoster!) 9 499 hugs given	Jan 31, 2019 at 09:28 PM #35 I’m in bed . So tired. I don’t think my check will be in tomorrow. Not that it matters...I decided to get my son contacts so I’ll be spending it all on that next week. __________________ Schizoaffective, PTSD, Anxiety

Desoxyn Metaphysic Member Since Aug 2016 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 12,980 (SuperPoster!) 7 4,908 hugs given	Jan 31, 2019 at 09:32 PM #36 My sister is a bich tho but I love her

Erti Princess Tutu Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Nowhere Posts: 7,912 12 2,894 hugs given	Jan 31, 2019 at 09:37 PM #37 sounds like the females in your life cries a lot about beautiful things.

Desoxyn Metaphysic Member Since Aug 2016 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 12,980 (SuperPoster!) 7 4,908 hugs given	Jan 31, 2019 at 09:49 PM #38 I miss the summer

Erti Princess Tutu Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Nowhere Posts: 7,912 12 2,894 hugs given	Jan 31, 2019 at 10:27 PM #39 I can't wait for spring.

newtus The Dopamine Flux Member Since Jun 2010 Location: Ardenweald Posts: 43,644 (SuperPoster!) 13 867 hugs given	Jan 31, 2019 at 10:33 PM #40 Im so lost. Im so incredibly lost. Idk what to do with my life. I have no idea. I just wish i knew what to do. Im lost. __________________ "We're all born to broken people on their most honest day of living" The Dopamine Flux www.thedopamineflux.com Youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/user/MozePrayIII