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Default Mar 10, 2019 at 10:13 PM
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I used to be so good at school. But in college I just had a hard time getting into the grove of things.

I go to a very prestigious university where everyone around me seems to have their crap together and somehow enjoy the meticulous study routine. But I’m finding that I don’t fit in with these people. It’s been 3 years at this school and I don’t really have any friends that go there. I don’t fit in. I hate the classes. I find everything to be boring or a waste of my time. And now I don’t even like my major.

Some days I wish I had just gone to community college or even a state school. It would have at least been easier. I also wish that I would have chosen a different major. Mine is a complete bore and I don’t even want to pursue this career path any longer.

Yet all of these issues probably won’t matter in a week or so. I slacked off so much this quarter, I didn’t even turn in one of my midterms. I haven’t been to class in a long while. I’m very certain I will fail all of these classes. Which will either mean I will be kicked out of the college (the most likely option) or if I do get to stay i will have no chance at graduating on time.

Honestly I would just drop out right now if it wouldn’t make my parents hate me. They co-signed my student loans so if I drop out I have to start paying them back ASAP. And I can’t really do that right now, I don’t make enough. And they’d have to help me out. Itd be rough. Not to mention they’d seen me as a failure. They’re the type of parents that pushed me to do the IB program in highschool and pushed for the great university and made me feel like I had to become some perfect person.

Anyone else gone through this type of thing? How did you handle it? If you have been kicked out of college what happened? How did your parents take it?
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Default Mar 11, 2019 at 05:46 PM
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This is a difficult place to be in. You should try to discuss this honestly with your parents and see if there is a school counselor to talk to about these things. If you don't, things will only become increasingly more rough.

This is my background with higher education. I went to a very expensive and exclusive "great books school," didn't have friends there but liked the program. I had a nervous break down where I stopped sleeping for a few weeks. My grades dropped and I dropped out. I had to go to community college as a result where I nearly got expelled several times as I battled with professors who tried to teach me pastafarianism, ancient alien theory, and on the sexuality of nuns in the middle ages (all in 100 level classes, it didn't get much better), went on to another private school and was "indefinitely suspended" from the school for openly criticizing the school. Now I'm at my 4th university. It can get rough.

So there are some different options available.
1. You can get out the elbow grease and tough it out - a lot of jobs don't really care what your major is as long as you got a degree.
2. You can switch majors if they let you remain at the school. (Switching majors is very common, most people don't graduate in just 4 years.)
3. You can switch universities and majors. You have 3 years already, so you could easily transfer in all those credits and not be set back much. Some accredited universities allow all 120 credits to be transferred from elsewhere, so you could probably transfer yourself into an associates degree instantly. If you have prerequisites left, then you can get those at a community college or cheap online school easily and cheaply enough.
4. You can drop out and take another route to a well paying job until you get the debt settled. There are some places that pay quite a lot to unskilled labor or you can find an apprenticeship.

Remember, for the most part, you can always attempt university again in the future.
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