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Default Jul 28, 2019 at 07:32 PM
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I have this problem in school with writing assigments where ill be unsure of how to do them, and then ill just kind lock myself on that and get really irritated both at the assignment and myself.
And for some reason the thought of getting help someone else is just really... Off putting? I really hate doing it, because im stubborn and want do everything myself and i dont like having someone watch what i do and so i lock myself again. This is quite a big problem since a very large part of our school work consists of writing assigments.
And now when i write it out it sounds stupid and like it shouldn't be hard to solve, but it is and i just have no idea why.
Im sorry if this doesn't make total sense or is rambeling, its 2 am im really tired and probably shouldn't be trying to write, so yeah if you need clarification ask. I might even delete this tomorrow when i read this and get a panic attack over it being bad. On another note: im not if locking oneself means what i think it means i English so i guess i will explain it, essentially i convince myself its not going to work and get stuck there.

Either way, any ideas why this is? Do i just need to try to over come it?
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Hm-m-m-m... well... since I'm an old man it's been many years since I was in school (thankfully.) One thing in your post that jumps out at me is the fact you're awake & on-line at 2 a.m. I don't know if that's typical for you of course. But, if so, one thing you might consider is that everything is much more difficult when you're not rested. I know myself when I don't get enough sleep it's harder to focus, harder to understand something I might be reading (such as posts here on PC), & much easier to become irritated at even the smallest provocations.

As I recall you had mentioned, in your introductory post, social anxiety is something you struggle with. Perhaps your reluctance to seek help also has something to do with that? Being stubborn & wanting to do everything yourself isn't necessarily a bad thing to my way of thinking as long as it doesn't result in you not completing your school assignments to the best of your ability. However, if this "locking" is something that is affecting your performance then perhaps it is something you ought to address. I wonder if there might be a teacher, or school counselor, you could "brainstorm" with regarding how to get past your inhibition.

I don't know as there are any particular techniques I could suggest for overcoming something such as this. One way to look at it, perhaps, might be to see it simply as a bad habit you need to change. Here are links to 3 articles, from PC's archives, that discuss effective ways to change a bad habit. The third article includes a video on the subject you can watch:

Science Says This Is How to Break Any Bad Habit

The Golden Rule of Habit Change

3 Steps to Change a Habit | Channel N

And while we're on the subject... here are links to 2 articles, also from PC's archives, that discuss good study habits:

10 Highly Effective Study Habits

2 Important Strategies for Effective Studying


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Default Jul 29, 2019 at 08:20 PM
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Thanks for the reply.
During school times im generally not up this late, but during summer breaks it doesn't really matter as much, that and i need to pause with my sleep helping medicine.
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Default Jul 29, 2019 at 09:07 PM
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Sorry to hear of your struggles. I am sometimes similar. One thing that has helped me on occasion was writing a very rough outline that serves as a plan. Underneath the outline I’ll put random bits of information I might want somewhere, usually not even complete sentences but as bullets. Then I’ll sort those bullets and copy and paste them into the outline wherever they’d most logically fit. Finally I turn the bullets into proper sentences and add transitions to make these flow before proofreading. This process has sometimes helped me get “unstuck” because I can get information out of my head without it being perfect and organized from the beginning. I basically dump my bazillion random chaotic thoughts out, then deal with converting them into proper writing later. It’s hard because our brains have many neurons firing and many thoughts occurring all at once, but sentences can only be written and read one word at a time. We’re forced to turn parallel processing into serial processing.

Another technique that I’ve rarely used but DON’T recommend for obvious reasons comes from a bumper sticker I saw: “Write drunk, edit sober.”

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Default Aug 15, 2019 at 04:05 AM
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I recognize myself a lot in your post. I deal with the same issue, the only thing I can recommend is to seek help regardless. I'm very lucky that my sister is capable and willing to help me out. Don't get me wrong, asking for the help feels bad, getting the help feels even worse, but with the help I get the assignement done. I feel utterly and truly misserable while working on it, but it gets done. I don't known how long your study will last, but with luck these kind of assignments will be a thing of the past once your done.
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