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Default Dec 07, 2019 at 04:43 PM
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Hi Community, This thread is in support of the countless survivors of Institutional Betrayal in Academic Institutions. Institutional Betrayal trauma theory has laid the foundation for understanding the complexities behind cultural and systemic abuse within workplaces, institutions and cultures. When someone is abused on campus, the Institution has a vested interest in protecting the credibility of the institution. Instead of acknowledging or supporting survivors of abuse, the institution betrays the survivor and protects the perpetrator. While this can spare an institution from being held accountable, or from being drawn into a lawsuit and dishing out millions of dollars in reparations, overtime it presents as a pattern of behavior. Perhaps one survivor's voice is not enough to hold an institution accountable, but when there are thousands of survivors over a long period of time who have similar stories, the institution cannot possibly deny their complicity in years of cover-ups. They are forced to acknowledge their failure in creating a genuine safe place, and instead, for allowing a toxic workplace culture that normalizes abuse to fester. And this is true reality of our institutions. They will stop at nothing to suppress the truth. This problem is being exposed all over the world as we speak; so please do not say this is conspiracy theory, generalization and or any other tactic meant to undermine the credibility of this very serious social issue. There are thousands of survivors who are banding up together to bring this to light. Just type into google, Institutional Betrayal University coverups. Thanks, HD7970ghz

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Thank you for this thread. I was a faculty member at a large medical school when my illness first surfaced. My chairman, who was ethically challenged to begin with, proceeded to massively harass and discriminate against me for some number of months. I thought about suing them. I would have probably won. But in the end, I felt it would be better for my health and recovery to just leave and go do my own thing. The funny bit about all this is, once I got out of his shadow and opened my own shop, my career just shot up. So funny. He was actually holding me back from my true potential. What a jerk.

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Thank you for this thread. I was a faculty member at a large medical school when my illness first surfaced. My chairman, who was ethically challenged to begin with, proceeded to massively harass and discriminate against me for some number of months. I thought about suing them. I would have probably won. But in the end, I felt it would be better for my health and recovery to just leave and go do my own thing. The funny bit about all this is, once I got out of his shadow and opened my own shop, my career just shot up. So funny. He was actually holding me back from my true potential. What a jerk.

Thank you for sharing this! I hope you were able to find healing. Have you been able to share your experience with others? It sounds like he was a classic narcissist. I am so sorry you experienced this!


I have heard a lot about academia culture. It is horrible. I'm actively researching university campuses and institutional betrayal. It seems it is EXTREMELY COMMON.


Do you still work in academia?

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Yes, I am actually in the middle of writing a book about all this stuff. My anonymity will be totally blown, but I don't care. It needs to be done.

Yes, they say academia is so rife with jerks and competition because the stakes are so low...

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10 people have died at Rowan this year. Why school says it can’t tell you more
This is what has been happening at my son's school.

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Yes, I am actually in the middle of writing a book about all this stuff. My anonymity will be totally blown, but I don't care. It needs to be done.

Yes, they say academia is so rife with jerks and competition because the stakes are so low...

Hi BPcyclist,

I am very happy that you are doing something about this problem. Perhaps you can help a lot of people! Please keep at it. So many survivors need you.

Here is one of hundreds of cases of Institutional Betrayal on University campuses.

Why sexual assault survivors can’t say #MeToo at some universities



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bpcyclist you can always have your membership here deleted to anonymous once your memoir hits the bookshelves.

I am glad you shared your story. I too was harassed and bullied by the dept chair of my university's education dept., during my time there in the MAT program for teaching. She had a "list" of students she wanted out of the program, and my name was on that list. I was the grad assistant of the education academic dean at the time, so I I employed his support but then he died from his terminal illness in the middle of my battle. So, I was left with a very morally compromised interim dean whom I scheduled a meeting with and with the maniacal evil dept. chair. During the meeting with them both, I held me own and called out their lies with evidential support from the university's policies and the program's guidelines. This didn't get me very far. Then I was sitting in front of a jury of 12 pre-selected faculty members of different departments who grilled me on my academic progress (straight A's, fyi) in the program. The trouble started with my mentor teacher who was constantly undermining and sabotaging me in her classroom. So, I pleaded my case to these 12 faculty members and lost, and was unable to finish my student teaching there to get my teacher license. I left with just my masters degree. It traumatized me so much, that I deleted 3 years of the academic research and papers that I wrote, which included deleting my masters thesis on literacy in the classroom.

Just to say, I empathize with you. Institutional betrayal on university campuses is rampant. No one is immune. Even my own parents weren't immune. My father was harassed by his nemesis who wanted my father's job. But then my father died from cancer and his nemesis got my father's job after all. Shortly after that, the university forcefully retired my mother 2 years after my father died, b/c a younger staff member wanted my mother's job. So, they retired my mother without giving her notice. She showed up for work and was told, "Oh we've retired you. Here's your severance package."
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Unfortunately I experienced discrimination at both my grad and undergrad universities, although it was far worse at my grad school. I didn't let them force me out though and it pissed them off to no end that the general public liked my work more than any other student's (it was an MFA in performing arts). They also, without my permission, used photos of my work to promote their programs in many different magazines. It was kind of hilarious to be their black sheep and yet they promoted MY work as evidence of how great their school was. *SMH*

But moreso I have experienced institutional betrayal in the workplace. I had to sue a former employer due to discrimination. And even places where it seems good, there is still discrimination, albeit mild. Even places that are trying to "do good" in this respect aren't employing the voices of those who are actually disabled or whatever minority group that is suffering the discrimination to understand how to be culturally responsive (whether that's to disability - medical or psych - or race/ethnicity/gender/age, etc.). So they do what they "think" will help and don't realize that a lot of times those attempts to right the discrimination are just as bad as the discrimination.

That's all I can say for now. My dogs are going bonkers. Gotta go feed em.

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bpcyclist you can always have your membership here deleted to anonymous once your memoir hits the bookshelves.

I am glad you shared your story. I too was harassed and bullied by the dept chair of my university's education dept., during my time there in the MAT program for teaching. She had a "list" of students she wanted out of the program, and my name was on that list. I was the grad assistant of the education academic dean at the time, so I I employed his support but then he died from his terminal illness in the middle of my battle. So, I was left with a very morally compromised interim dean whom I scheduled a meeting with and with the maniacal evil dept. chair. During the meeting with them both, I held me own and called out their lies with evidential support from the university's policies and the program's guidelines. This didn't get me very far. Then I was sitting in front of a jury of 12 pre-selected faculty members of different departments who grilled me on my academic progress (straight A's, fyi) in the program. The trouble started with my mentor teacher who was constantly undermining and sabotaging me in her classroom. So, I pleaded my case to these 12 faculty members and lost, and was unable to finish my student teaching there to get my teacher license. I left with just my masters degree. It traumatized me so much, that I deleted 3 years of the academic research and papers that I wrote, which included deleting my masters thesis on literacy in the classroom.

Just to say, I empathize with you. Institutional betrayal on university campuses is rampant. No one is immune. Even my own parents weren't immune. My father was harassed by his nemesis who wanted my father's job. But then my father died from cancer and his nemesis got my father's job after all. Shortly after that, the university forcefully retired my mother 2 years after my father died, b/c a younger staff member wanted my mother's job. So, they retired my mother without giving her notice. She showed up for work and was told, "Oh we've retired you. Here's your severance package."
Just seeing this post, sorry. Oh, Blanche--I am so sorry you had to go through all that. What a freaking nightmare! The egos and the arrogance in these places. It's all just too much. The politics. It's disgusting.

I wish you peace and great success in whatever you choose to do in the future. Hopefully, you won't have to deal with any more people like that.

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Thanks bpcyclist. I grew up around university campuses my entire life. So, I wrongly assumed that would be the focal point of my life; become an academic myself. Didn't happen. I wasn't strategic enough, or mentally strong enough to maneuver around the institutional politics, arrogance, egos, and backstabbing that went on around me as a grad student. I failed myself in that way. Now, I'm afloat. ****ing Castaway in my own life with no ocean liner to rescue me so I may just drown.
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It's unfortunate in that when human beings form ANY kind of group function, there tends to be some negative politics involved. It's not surprising that a lot of people struggle when it comes to navigating the politics that take place in so many groups. Same game, different place tends to be pretty common. In all honesty, the saying "it's not what you know but who you know" is so incredibly true.

Bottom line, human beings evolved from apes/primates that could be extremely violent. It's always about "resources". Any group that consists of some alpha group, and there always is one, will look for anything that can pose a threat to "sustaining their resourses" which includes power and control. If someone chooses to walk into any classroom and challenge a teacher and whatever that teacher is doing in HIS/HER classroom, that person is asking for trouble, it's just that simple. This is true for ANY situation that is connected to an organized group. There is always an umbrella that everyone hovers under and looks to protect that umbrella. That umbrella is a resource for all who hover under it. While there is often a human resources department if there is a big enough unbrella, that department is always set in place to "protect" the umbrella it too hovers under.

It's unfortunate in that there are people who are "not" good people that can hover under some unbrella. However, these individuals typically find some way of contributing to what is needed to keep that unbrella in place. In one instance a member shared how they had a legitimate grip, yet, when they were judged by 12 individuals, they lost the battle. Unfortunately, the reason that did happen was loyalty to the umbrella itself and that happened to take presedence which often does happen. This all stems back to the fact that human beings evolved from apes/primates that could be very cruel and violent because of the limited amount of resources they had to contend with.
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