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I am so hurt and devestated right now, I just want to share some. I just did a level three Diploma in Counselling skills, I applied to do the level four in counselling, this would of been the training to become a professional counsellor and I wasn't offered a place.
This really hurt, I did really well, I passed all the coursework, I didn't need any extensions, I felt I did so well and I put in so much effort. To not be able to progress, I just feel like I am a weaker candidate and that I just am not good enough. This is the part that hurts the most. No matter how much I try, how good I think I am, I just am not good enough. I question what do I have to do to be good enough, the thought that maybe I just can't be any better than I am is disheartening. I know I have other opportunities that I can apply for, luckily I have a degree and I am applying for a post-graduate position in something, but the devestation that I can't continue on with what I really wanted to do, I actually thought I would be good at this, when everone around me says how "good" I am, something like this just shows me I am not. Which makes me not want to trust what other people say to me. I had a direction and now i've lost it. |
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I'm sorry things did not work out as you had hoped. Hopefully one of those other opportunities you mentioned will come through. And perhaps, in retrospect, it will turn out that not getting the offer you wanted was actually a good thing in disguise because, in the end, taking a different path led to something even better. At least that is my hope for you. Best wishes...
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I'm so sorry. Can you find out why you weren't allowed to move up? That might help you in knowing what to do next. Could it be something personal?
I was in grad school with some folks in the clinical psych program--and some just were not good at actually counseling someone--so they had to drop out, as I gathered. There might be some other careers where you can counsel people. How about checking possibilities? I''m sure there's something out there for you..... |
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Thanks for the reply, I did ask for some feedback on my application form, still waiting. From what I can see academically I passed the level three without issue and my skills assessment was good. I was told by my tutor I had potential for this line of work. So my best guess is that I am mentally or/both emotionally not ready at this stage, I am not undergoing counselling at the moment although I am looking for one currently. I do feel that I need theraphy, stumbling on various theories that I want to bring to a therapist to explore. If this is the case, then I plan on healing this year, while boosting my skills, knowledge and abilities so I can apply next year. I have put in another application for a graduate certificate in counselling, so there might be a slim chance of hope to start over with a different set of counselling skills, while growing more this year. I am reluctant to give up at this moment as I feel like I did well, hopefully I do get some feedback. Hoping I just didn't make the cut this year and there is still a potential future for me here. If not then what you and Skeezyks mentioned about a different path that may be even better than my current aspiration. I'm looking toward an undiscovered and exciting future. |
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That sounds like a good plan--and a good attitude
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So stunned right now, I applied for a few MSc degree's within occupational/organizational and coaching Psychology, my undergraduate degree is in Psychology and so far I have three offers O_O I went from feeling not good enough to well being good enough. I am really hopeful that I might have a career path as a Psychologist instead of a Counsellor. Thank you Travelinglady and Skeezyks, I have felt sinking despair these last few days, was great to have a space to say it out loud. I think a new direction might be what really is right for me.
(Also found a counsellor taking new clients, so I might be able to get professional help soon) Today has been such a wonderful day for good news. |
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Yay!
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Hitherto thank you. This was exactly what I needed, to know I'm not alone. I am in my second year of my master's degree in counseling and I ran into an issue. I'm not ready. It's hard to swallow. Especially when other counselors say mixed things. My mental health got in the way. And now I have a decision, do I continue or not. Although not the exact same situation, but similar enough. Maybe looking at our end goal will help.
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