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Trig Aug 08, 2018 at 08:15 PM
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For years, I have consistently lived with, worked with, and encountered people who would attack me and attack me in the worst most brutal ways possible. They have ruined my life, but I would rather have a ruined life that I am blamed for and punished for everyday, than no life (at least in the moment). I am tired of being everyone's punching bag and want help figuring out how to stop this terrible pattern. Please help with advice.
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For years, I have consistently lived with, worked with, and encountered people who would attack me and attack me in the worst most brutal ways possible. They have ruined my life, but I would rather have a ruined life that I am blamed for and punished for everyday, than no life (at least in the moment). I am tired of being everyone's punching bag and want help figuring out how to stop this terrible pattern. Please help with advice.

I can relate to this. I was the scapegoat of my family, then sought out relationships where I just kept on recreating the same pattern with other people over and over and over.

I cut out a lot of people in my life, who weren't kind to me. I'm working on adding positive people to my life, but it's hard.


I used to be attracted to people who were very loud and outgoing and dramatic, and they would just overpower me and I would go along with whatever they wanted.

I made a new friend at work, but I had to fight against the idea that she was too "boring" for me. She's very kind, and yeah, maybe a little boring, but she's a true friend.


So maybe look for the boring people? If anybody is too exciting or attractive, it might not be a good thing. And you deserve to have good people in your life! They're out there, supposedly lol (still working on believing this myself).
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