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Old 10-20-2019, 07:29 AM   #1
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Hi community,

I am currently retraumatized and in the worst shape I have ever been. Trying so hard to stay alive. Could use some advice from the community.

How do you persevere when life gets tough?

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There's an old saying, "When the going gets tough, the tough get going." I'm not sure how to interpret that. For me, evetually things get better, after I've hammered away at it with everything I can think of. And I've heard people say these worse times do make us tougher. I'm very sorry you are going through such a bad time. Lots of hugs!
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When I am overwhelmed, I try to face what is overwhelming me. Once I accept it, it loses its hold over me. Some things that are bothering me take me awhile to figure out what is going on in my brain. Have you ever tried that?

Do you see a counselor? A therapist can help you through this but there are also things you can do for self-care.
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Old 10-20-2019, 01:29 PM   #4
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Sorry you're in such pain, H. If it makes you feel better, I don't feel very good either.

Sending you many virtual hugs and thoughts... ( )
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I'm sorry you are struggling. Basically, when I am in your position, which is fairly often, I just refuse to give up. Just don't quit. Keep fighting. And when it gets to be just too, too much, I go lay down and regroup. It has worked so far. Not sure where you are on the spiritual thing, but I also pray a LOT. It helps me enormously. So, don't give up. Power through it. You can do it. Even if it's super-hard. Sending you positive vibes.
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I take long showers
I go for long bike rides
I pray
I swim
I sleep a lot
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I persevere by...

self-caring
other-caring
believing that "this, too, shall pass"
finding support
taking one day at a time
resting, relaxing, taking breaks
breaking tasks down into manageable pieces
connecting with others who are struggling similarly
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When life is rough, I try to see at least something through an optimistic viewpoint. It could be work, play, family, friends, self-gratifying behaviors.


The 'self-gratifying behaviors' part of the answer might not sound like it makes sense though. I just don't think all self-gratifying behaviors are bad -- like eating or reading or sex. Too much is bad though, obviously. Being too gratifying to yourself is gluttonous -- and not just with food. Addictions arise that are seriously hazardous.

To persevere, I also summon the courage otherwise left in the dust to try to accomplish the task at hand.
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There are some things I do is when I'm anxious, or memories from PTSD come up that I learned in group therapy. One: when the bad thoughts come up. Realize the thought, write it down in a notebook and let it go. Two: staying present in the moment. Take a breath in and count to 5, let it out for 7 seconds. While doing this pay attention to what's around you ex: the music playing noises out side ect. Three: for depression keep a journal for things your grateful for every day. A second journal for complements people have given you every day. Whether you believe them or not, or from a complete stranger. One last note, surround your self with people you trust and dont isolate your self.
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Thank you, @emilyrose3406, for your wonderful advice! And welcome to PC!!
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