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Old 05-29-2020, 12:51 PM   #41
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Default Well, Dad ...

Onto my next internal adjustment ... dealing with yet another childhood shackle my interactions with my father had left me with. You can follow the details in my Steinbeck Warmups thread.

Dealing with a miffed repair, I think. We needed an alternator replaced and used wrench.com. Routine, right?

But, when we moved the car half a block it ran rough and there was a smell of gas. Called wrench ... next visit by the same mechanic on Monday at three. Disrupts a few plans my partner had to attend a class. For the second week.

My work with a senior center is probably wiped out. Despite the huge grant because that was from before ... this is going into post-COVID19. Seniors will be last "allowed" to congregate. The grant was all about various was to get together. In person. As in face-to-face.

My client has said "wel'll have to be more careful about my hours" from now on. So 2023 has shrunk to April 2020.

As we say when playing bid whist after a game ended,
New Day. Deal the cards.
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Old 06-02-2020, 10:13 AM   #42
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Default June Refresh

We had a tradition on the Barbara Sher forums of kicking off each month with a fresh thread. We discussed continuing that but settled on keeping one thread and letting it run long.

The flipping of the calendar page still brings a feeling of a slightly fresh start. Here's a list of recent things I've toyed with. Perhaps in the upcoming months I'll take each up in turn and say more.
  • Tiny Habits as discovered by BJ Fogg
  • WOOP - Wish Outcome Obstacle Plan
  • Start to Finish, Finish to Start and Visionary Planning
This month: WOOP
From the website: What is WOOP?
WOOP is a science-based mental strategy that people can use to find and fulfill their wishes, set preferences, and change their habits.
Science
WOOP is based on 20 years of scientific research. The method has been shown to be effective in numerous studies with people of all ages and in many areas of life*.
*In research, WOOP is usually examined under the scientific term Mental Contrasting with Implementation Intentions, abbreviated MCII.


This is what it means: call up a Wish, describe what achieving the wish will do for you (Outcome), List one Inner Obstacle, Make a if-then or a when-then Plan. And carry on.
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Old 06-02-2020, 10:24 AM   #43
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Default June WOOP 1

Usually I WOOP while lying in bed before I get up for the day. It's quiet. One for now:
Wish: I want to be quicker to act on small matters.
Outcome: more time freed up to attend to bigger, more important stuff.
Obstacle: My imagination can see all the burdensome added or incumbent steps to following through completely.
Plan: When I decide something is relatively a small matter, assay the pros & cons within a minute, then decide and immediately act.

Example,
W: Someone posted USB headset on trash nothing.
O: A better headset might be great due to the bigger role online work has now.
O: It's free, but l'll have to clean it, and it not in the closest neighborhood.
P: The smallest act is to try to claim it. It might be taken and then the obstacles don't matter. If It's mine discuss options with owner. Make the trip an adventure.
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Old 06-02-2020, 01:59 PM   #44
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Default Re: A few Measly Steps a Day

wish - to get more writing done
objective - edit to the end of the novel
obstacle - none except lack of motivation.
plan - write until it gets too hot, go to the store, got to the Berkeley Marina to finish the editing, Come home, goof off shamelessly
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I did the edit. Next plan - Berkeley Marina, bring computer. order pizza and salad (from mom and pop establishment.) then go home and goof off shamelessly.
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Default complaint day

Coming off a horrible-feeling experience with wrench.com where they intentionally skewed my call for their mobile mechanic to come check out a couple of problems my car had after their repair. They want to treat it like a non-related service call and charge their high diagnostic fee.

I really can't prove anything. Yet, I know, from a customer expectations and customer retention and customer positive word of mouth they have really messed up. I'm dedicating myself to getting my disgust with them to several review sites like yelp, car talk, & consumer affairs. Then I'm going to find out who the CEO is of one of the venture capitalist backers and tell then where I shared my experience and suggest that whatever business model wrench sold them on probably is lacking deep understanding of how to build a positive customer experience.
Whew! Thanks for letting me vent.

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