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Default Jan 24, 2010 at 10:51 AM
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Other thing's to do instead of self harming..

.Hitting a pillow real hard.
. Holding a ice cube until it hurts.
.Flicking a elastic band on your arm.
.Listen to your fave music.
.Draw.paint.
.Phone a freind /family member you trust and talk to them


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Default Feb 10, 2010 at 06:24 PM
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Watch scrubs . It's become a tradition in my house,when my brother was stuck in hospital for few weeks he had the boxset with him and I've done the same. It's great when your feelig donwn.always makes me smile but has the deep bits at the start and the end.helps get your mind off loads if things
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Default Feb 10, 2010 at 06:33 PM
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a hot hot HOT shower. trust me. it works.

dont burn yourself or anything... but make it really really hot.

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Default Feb 10, 2010 at 08:41 PM
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I'm sure these things have already been mentioned but just in case, here's what I try to do:

- Read some quotes or song lyrics and find one that helps you feel better.
- Go For A Walk.
- Watch a funny clip from your favourite TV Show On YouTube or Watch a Funny DVD.
- Listen to a song that means something to you.
- Call a friend.
- Laugh. Even if you have nothing to laugh about.
- Scream into a pillow.
- Try and work 3321.4 divided by 48.1

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Default Feb 17, 2010 at 07:51 PM
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thank you so much! i am fourteen and i have been cutting myself progresssively wrse and i am getting desperate. this list is really helpful thank you so much

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deep breathing

relaxation techniques

call a friend, your therapist or a crisis line

try not be be alone (visit a friend, go shopping, etc.)

take a hot bath

listen to music

go for a walk

write in a journal

some people find it helpful to draw red lines on themselves with washable markers instead of cutting themselves

hold ice cubes in your hands - the cold causes pain in your hands, but it is not dangerous or harmful (some people find it relieves the urge to harm themselves for that moment)

punching a bed or a pillow (when nothing but a physical outlet for your anger and frustration will work).

scratch draw a picture on a thick piece of wood or use a screw driver and stab at the piece of wood. (can be another physical way to release your emotions without harming yourself.)

avoid temptation (i.e. avoiding the area in CVS where the razor blades are kept, etc.)

try to find your own creative ways as outlets for emotions.

learn to confront others/making your own feelings known instead of keeping them inside

go outside and scream and yell

take up a sport (a form of exercise can help you release tension, etc.)

work with paint, clay, play-doo, etc. (the person who suggested this mentioned that they would make a big sculpture and do whatever they wanted to it. They said it was helpful to calm the urge to self-injure, plus it gave them some idea of what might be underlying the pain.

draw a picture of what or who is making you angry
instead of harming yourself, try massaging the area you want to harm with massage oils or creams, reminding yourself that you are special and you deserve to treat yourself and your body with love and respect

go to church or your place of worship
wear a pipe cleaner or something that will fit on the places that you injure.

break the object that you use to self-injure as a way to show that you have control over it.

write a letter to the person(s) that have hurt you and express how they made you feel. Theses letters do not have to be in perfect form and you do not have to please anyone but yourself. You do not have to give these letters to the people, but it is a great way to release the feelings that you are carrying within. After you write the letters, you can decide then what to do with them. Some people find destroying the letters help (i.e. tear them up, throw them in a lake, etc.)

do some household chores (i.e. cleaning)

do some cooking

try some sewing, crossstitch, etc.

recite a poem, prayer or anything else familiar the comforts you multiple times

write down all your positive points and why you do not deserve to be hurt

write in your journal why you want to hurt yourself and if you have hurt yourself, write down what caused it to happen so in the future you can prevent it from happenings - or find out what your triggers were

Play some kind of musical instrument. Even if you don't really know how to play, picking out tunes is a way to concentrate and help get rid of the urge to harm yourself.

yoga

allow yourself to cry. Getting the tears out can make you feel better. It allows the inside to release, as opposed to self abuse. Picture your "ickies" pouring out as you cry.

Take a shower

write down a word best associated with what you are feeling (i.e. horrible, sad, lonely, angry) and continue to write it down, over and over. Sometimes when you do that, the words looks silly etc., and it puts humor or a smile in your life.

sing a song on what you are feeling. It's another way to get it outside. Shout if you are made, etc. Let the words just come to you.

Scribble on paper. Clutch the pen in your fist. It's a way to diffuse it on to paper. (Get a few sheets so they don't tear.)

Take item you are self injurying with and use it against something else. For example, if you are using a razor blade, rip it across a towel. Sometimes seeing what "can" be done to an object can make a person think twice about using it on themselves. Can also give the feeling of "doing it"...the tangible aspect.

Make a list of reasons why you are going to stop cutting. Every time you get the urge, read the list to remind yourself why you shouldn't. Also remember to put on that list that you do not deserve to hurt yourself. You are important and special and you do not deserve to be hurt.

Concentrate on your breathing - take slow, deep breaths, in through your nose, out through your mouth

Take a bubble bath

Take a shower

Massage your body, put body glitter / fake tattoos / jewellery / henna on your skin. Remind yourself your body is special.

Go for a walk

Listen / dance / sing to positive music

Pay attention to your body - think about how you are moving

Watch some mindless tv / read a book

Do something creative - eg draw, write poetry, play with playdough, practise a musical instrument, sing, do some gardening, write in a diary

Make something (craft, needlework, etc.)

Make a compliation tape. Start with music that expresses your emotion *now*, and work gradually through neutral to positive and upbeat music.

Do something FUN!!!

Make yourself as comfortable as possible - curl up in a chair with soft toys

Touch something familiar/safe

Carry tokens to remind you of peaceful comforting things/people

Create and use mental safe places (beach, cabin in the woods, peaceful mountain)

Repetitive reality checking (It's March 2003, and I'm going to be ok)

Ask yourself how you feel, think about why you feel like that, and write it down

Notice and avoid black and white thinking

Allow yourself to cry

Allow yourself to ask for help and express your feelings.

Use washable red markers to "cut" on your skin

Place your hands in freezing cold water, or hold / suck ice cubes

Wear an elastic band around wrist and snap it when you have the urge to harm yourself

Tear up paper (old phonebooks, newspapers, etc.)

Alternative between cuddling and punching something soft, the bed or a pillow

Plan regular activities for your most difficult time of day

Clean the house

Leave the room

Talk to someone safe - via email, phone, in person - try not to isolate yourself.

Help someone around you (reach out on a bulletin board, newsgroup, phone list etc.)

Go to church or your place of worship; pray or meditate
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no worries rap....whats mine is everyones!!!! hope this helps!
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Default Feb 23, 2010 at 11:20 PM
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angry music really helps!
i listen to disturbed, slipknot, linkin park, three days grace, and whatever is really angry that i can find

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Default May 01, 2010 at 09:10 PM
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- talking to a friend
- listening to music
- holding an icecube
- google random stuff
- read
- if a girl do a mani/pedi
- the rubber band thing
- clean
- take a shower/bath
- go shopping
- do homework (if in school)
- take a nap or go to bed

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Default Jun 25, 2010 at 10:25 PM
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Don't know if this is already on the list.. I know it really helps me out when I want to cut... atleast to some extent. I wear a elastic around my wrist and so I snap it whenever I get that feeling. It has really saved me some scars. It inflicts that distracting somewhat twinge of pain without really doing anything wrong.
I have done that a few times, with a rubberband on my wrist. Just kept slapping until my wrist hurt enought that I wanted to stop. It helped to release the inner pain that I was feeling, but didn't leave a permanent scar.

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Default Jun 28, 2010 at 06:34 AM
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Prayer worked for me, for a while. I did the rubber band thing too, but it was just another form of self-injury in my opinion, and it left marks too. Getting sick really helped. It even taught me to take care of myself, and since I already felt pretty bad, I didn't feel the need to hurt myself anymore. Unfortunately it doesn't really last.
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Default Jul 02, 2010 at 05:36 AM
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Looking at the pictures I took of my old scars when they were fresh also helps me not to make new ones. The pictures kind of preserve them, except not on my body anymore.
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Default Jul 20, 2010 at 09:01 AM
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Music, music, music, music, music, music, music!!!!!!

Green Day- the song Platypus, Reject, or Take Back!

Amazing release of emotion!
I need to try the ice-cube thing...thanks so much for the list!
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Default Aug 13, 2010 at 11:55 AM
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good list of distractions xD

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Default Aug 13, 2010 at 06:54 PM
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Even though I never actually hurt myself, sometimes the desire is there. If the weather is at least somewhat decent out I've found riding my bike takes my mind off things. Probably better than a short nap for several reasons, but that works as well.
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Default Dec 08, 2010 at 01:03 PM
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Do yoggggaaaaaaaaa...it hurts so that'll help with the pain craving but it helps relieve stress AND it makes you stronger.

My fav pose is downward dog and warrior
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Default Dec 22, 2010 at 01:15 AM
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I used to trace my veins with pen. I stopped because my mom does't like it when I draw on myself, but thinking about it, it seems like a good habit to pick back up. Maybe it'd help someone else?
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Thank you all for the good ideas. These sound like good distractions.
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Do yoggggaaaaaaaaa...it hurts so that'll help with the pain craving but it helps relieve stress AND it makes you stronger.

My fav pose is downward dog and warrior
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I used to trace my veins with pen. I stopped because my mom does't like it when I draw on myself, but thinking about it, it seems like a good habit to pick back up. Maybe it'd help someone else?
worked for me and then i broke and i now have stoped for my second day
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Default May 08, 2011 at 01:21 AM
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working out has helped me a lot!
whenever im really stressed and want to si i try to get a workout in asap. jogging if nothing else, lately i've done mixed martial arts which really helped a lot. but any form of excercise has been helping

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Default Jun 02, 2011 at 09:40 PM
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thank you alll so much for your help I cannot wait to try out all of these different options.
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