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Old 08-05-2005, 11:19 AM   #11
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It's isn't that much fun and makes you feel much worse.
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Old 08-09-2005, 02:02 PM   #12
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I love that this thread is here. in the past i put simular ones on two other websites and on one it really took off, and the other continues in spurts.
One of my reasons is that if I continue my abuser wins. he felt all I was worth was to be his object to hurt and so on, my hurting myself is giving him what he wanted.
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Old 08-10-2005, 12:16 AM   #13
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That is a good point. Why should you have to have to hurt yourself because somebody hurt you?

(which is a big one for me - I think I'll show them, but when you really think about it, does it make sense that you were hurt so now you should be hurt more?)
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Old 08-11-2005, 08:10 PM   #14
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Reasons not to SI:
It's addicting
The scars don't go away
Your kids will be confused (mine are)
Your marriage could end ( mine did)
You could lose custody of your kids (I did)
It's much harder to date with scars that are hard to hide
Even if you overcome what drove you to SI you still have the scars
Your body is a gift. It's not very nice to reject that gift by abusing it.
You become an easy target for people to judge you
You have to listen to docs lecture you while being stitched.
The ambulance, and cops can show up at your house in minutes and humilliate you in front of your whole neighborhood
It's one step closer to suicide
The devil will laugh at you
It's easier to hate yourself
If your kids catch you they will be traumatized and they will never forget it
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Old 08-22-2005, 06:22 PM   #15
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I think you have a fantastic idea!!! Reasons Not To Reasons Not To

The problem with this forum; is it seems like it's a "fad" for a week or so & then "poof" everyone's gone. I didn't appreciate that they cut my thread; but I don't understand a lot of things they do around here...despite guidelines.....

But I think that a #1 Reason of WHY NOT to SI would be SCARS

For most of us, it's summer -- cannot cover "those scars"

SI-ing in intimate areas b/c they don't show, how are you going to explain them to your partner.....better yet --

Doctors -- There's a huge anti-stigma movement going on --
but there is very little info/help/stories of mistreatment like in ER's of SI ers

How can I ever go back to nursing? The most recent cuts have me running a fever b/c I don't want to go to a doctor b/c of how I've been treated in the past (even w/ the nursing creditials)--if you're an SI-er -- you could be the Pope -- you're still treated like dirt!!

Would ANYONE help me go up to bat as a spokesman for SIers?
If not, I'll stay in my apt. & hide like the rest of you get infections and die w/o a reason/reason/purpose.
Think about........my body can't take this & they just a small tumor near my eye orbital/brain area...I haven't had a good summer.

Reason #2: Unsanitary/Infections=fevers=hospitalization



How's that for a starting?
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Old 08-29-2005, 05:08 AM   #16
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Thank you dayzee and thanks everyone else. Reasons Not To Reasons Not To *HUGS* to all of you. Thanks for sharing.
dayzee, I think you're probably right. I think a lot of people on here would agree with you. I wouldn't really know though, because I've never had medical treatment, mainly because I'm scared of people's reactions. So yeah, dayzee. You're right. And that's not a good thing...
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But...to be totally honest, I don't really see a problem with SI for me at the moment. So I retract my reasons against it.
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Reasons not to - interesting thread - happens to be my homework from my T this week also - so let's see --

The scars - I agree, that's a biggy

Shame - I would feel awful if my kids knew, I feel like others look down on us for it - why do something you are definitely NOT proud of - doesn't seem a healthy choice

Not a healthy way to cope - hope to be a therapist someday, wouldn't want to think that's how my T copes

Addiction - do I want to be addicted to anything? It's not any different from being addicted to alcohol, drugs, or overeating. An addiction is an addiction. Don't want to give my life over to that.

Abuse - As someone else pointed out, why continue? why take over where your abuser left off? If I give in to abusing myself, I'm suggesting that his view of my selfworth was right. I don't want to give him that.

Cycling - it was suggested that si fuels my depression which fuels my si - I need to break the cycle in order to feel better about myself and get out of this rut. I definitely want to stop feeling the way I do right now. I don't know how much longer I can last feeling this way. If stopping can change this feeling, then it would be worth it.

That's all I can think of right now. It has helped though. I guess I'll have to keep looking at this post and remembering what I'm working for. Thanks, Quay
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Thank you too. Twas good posting.
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-Because when you can say (and BELIEVE) that you are strong enough to not cut, it will feel way better than cutting ever did.
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