If anyone in your real life found about your self harm, how did they react?

My family member cornered me and yelled at me over it when she found out a few years ago

[Skeezyks]

My wife chose to pretend it had not occurred...

[Tornerose]

My parents felt... sad. Just sad. They didn’t want me hurting myself, but we’re very supportive and still are.

My latest psychiatrist told me that my self harm isn’t actually that bad (I never do any critical damage that can put my life at risk), because it’s better that I “get it out” in that way as supposed to more risky behaviour that could seriously harm me. So she isn’t too upset by my self harm.

As for my friends, I’ve never had any reactions worth talking about.

[Nike007]

My pdoc really wanted me to stop SH, and she kept telling me all these other strategies to reduce/stop SH. She printed out something for me to read in order for me to stop SH.

My psychologist said that it was my way of coping with stress, and that he can't stop me from doing this, or else then it may make me want to do it more.

I told some teachers and my old social worker at my high school about it. They acknowledged that I did, but did ask me if I stopped. I did/have.

I told a few friends, and they were saying that it was good I was seeking help, but also said I should stop too.

I have never told my family.

[possum220]

My family talked about it behind my back.

[possum220]

[QUOTE=Tornerose;6153446]My parents felt... sad. Just sad. They didn’t want me hurting myself, but we’re very supportive and still are.

My latest psychiatrist told me that my self harm isn’t actually that bad (I never do any critical damage that can put my life at risk), because it’s better that I “get it out” in that way as supposed to more risky behaviour that could seriously harm me. So she isn’t too upset by my self harm.

/QUOTE]

Your latest P'doc has little understanding of self harm. Any self harm regardless of actual injuries is worth discussion in order to get to the root of it. You aren't "getting it out" either you are merely shifting it from emotional pain to physical. After the physical pain has made contact with your body your nervous system releases endorphins to make you feel better.

[Kibou]

My mom yelled and insulted me and refused to talk to me for a while. But that was expectable. She has always been abusive with me, it's one of the reasons why I started cutting.
But my boyfriend & my friends were really supportive, even if most of them don't really understand my situation, they did not judge me and said they were ready to help me It makes me happy

family: " well, you just do what you need to do."
anyone else who usually asks gets an excuse for why the scars are their- and they usually buy it

well I'm not sure how they are when they are away from me, but when they are with me they don't act suspicious in the slightest

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by whispershadow

If anyone in your real life found about your self harm, how did they react?

My family member cornered me and yelled at me over it when she found out a few years ago

My family did the same thing to me! I was yelled at the time!

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by possum220

My family talked about it behind my back.

I completely understand! Mine did the same thing and then went online and blab about it some more.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Kibou

My mom yelled and insulted me and refused to talk to me for a while. But that was expectable. She has always been abusive with me, it's one of the reasons why I started cutting.
But my boyfriend & my friends were really supportive, even if most of them don't really understand my situation, they did not judge me and said they were ready to help me It makes me happy

My mom was like that! She yell at me had !e fear of the doctor. When I was yell at she would humiliated me whenever she could.

[Kibou]

Originally Posted by Buffy01

My mom was like that! She yell at me had !e fear of the doctor. When I was yell at she would humiliated me whenever she could.

Oh my that sucks :/ Do you still live with her, if you don't mind asking ? ^^;

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Kibou

Oh my that sucks :/ Do you still live with her, if you don't mind asking ? ^^;

No my mom pass away in 2009

[Scooter9]

I told my wife recently and it was a couple of years after my SH episode. She said she did not understand why I would want to do that to myself but added that she's there to listen if I wanted to talk.

[ForestWasp]

When I first revealed my self harm it was after a week long stay at a mental hospital. I had been SH for over 8 years and I was done hiding it. I first told my father that I was SH and he was very upset with it but knew that I was seeking help.

On the other hand when I told my girlfriend at the time she flipped her lid. She had not noticed my cuts on me and was visibly upset over what I had been doing.

Everyones reactions are different. Just gotta take it play by play