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Default Feb 15, 2019 at 04:13 PM
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This is something I've been thinking about. Since my last SH ended up with stitches, there hasn't been much to do with taking care of it except to put some Neosporin on it and a new bandage. I already have an appointment to get the stitches taken out on the 25th. But I realized, what I am missing this time, is the ritual of taking care of the wound.

This might be as important as the actual SH act. It's a misguided way of taking care of myself. The gauze, the tape, the athletic tape, the creams, the butterfly strips, etc. It's like I hurt myself, and then I help myself feel better.

I was thinking back to my childhood, when my depression started. Whenever I got hurt as a child my Mom sent me to the neighbors because she didn't deal with that stuff. So after it was bandaged up, I was on my own to comfort myself and take care of myself. If I was sick Mom took me to the doctors but then it was basically like I was on my own to get better, and to comfort myself. I missed out on someone comforting me, and tending to me, and helping me when I was sick or hurt as a child. I think that is why the ritual of taking care of the wound is important to me.


I'm missing out on that this time. So it feels like this SH was incomplete. Even though the wound is more severe than normal, there's not much I have to do to tend to it. It just has to get better on it's own.

So I'm trying to think of something nice I can do for myself this weekend, in a way of taking care of myself. I'm not sure what it is, but I feel like I need something to help me to take care of myself. I don't know if anyone else feels this way about taking care of SH wounds. I just wanted to share what I was thinking and if anyone has anything they'd like to share or comment on, feel free. HUGS to all, Kit

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Thank you for sharing that. I have not cut in a long time but I remember the ritual. I cared for the wound because back then I had no one who cared for me.

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You raise a subtle, interesting, and important point.

I imagine that people differ in choosing to care for or not care for the wound, and they differ in what that choice means for their treatment and recovery. Those differences are well worth looking into, in my opinion.

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So my visit with the GP to get the stitches taken out of my SH wound wasn't half bad yesterday. A) she didn't ask me if I wanted a Pap Smear...although for some reason she did ask me last year when I had broken my ankle and it was hugely swollen, and I was like, woman, take care of my ankle! B) She was really nice when she was taking out the stitches. She kept asking me if I was okay (I was...I was mostly taking notes so I could do it myself next time!) Then she put steri-strips on it because she said it's still fragile. And not to move my arm too much. Um. Okay. C) She took me back to the consultation room and asked me if I was doing okay, if I was planning on hurting myself, if I had thoughts of hurting myself, if I had seen my psychiatrist, if he had done anything with the medication. All in all, I felt like she really cared about me. And then she said..."If you feel like that again call the ambulance." Oh yeah right. Like I'm going to have the call the ambulance every other day if that was the case. But I know she was trying to be supportive and trying to give me options that didn't involve me hurting myself. She ordered lab work (which I figured as it has been a year since I've been in her office) and I have a follow up appointment mid March. I already made the lab appointment today, it's for next Saturday. So I'm being good and following doctor's orders! Except I already took the steri-strips off because half of them were peeling and they were really just annoying. At this point it's just going to heal however it is going to heal. It probably will look better than some of the ones I didn't go to the hospital for. I feel a little fragile today, and maybe anxious? But relieved that the appointment went well. HUGS to anyone who wants one! Kit

I forgot to add I had to get the stitches taken out early because the doctor's office called and moved up my appointment. Thus the need for the steri-strips.

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