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Old 12-25-2019, 11:30 PM   #1
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The way I cope when when the crap hits the fan is I cut. "That's bad. You don't need to cut. You need to find different coping mechanisms." I hear this all the time when it is discovered I cut. The arguments are always the same and my rebuttal is the same. Yet in the end no one can answer the question of why is it bad?

"The open wounds can get infected."
I don't cut deep enough to leave open wounds. (Trust me on this one and don't judge me please. PC does not want me talking about specifics and I want to respect their rules.)

"You will leave scars" No I don't but even if I did it is on places that are covered.

"Do you feel like you have to hide it? Then that should tell you it's bad."
I feel like I have to hide my depression, suicide ideation, and multitude of other problems. Yet I am told I shouldn't be ashamed of that.

"Well you just shouldn't. You should find better coping skills." Why 75%-90% of the time this works?

Now that we have gotten those arguments out of the way can you tell me why it's so bad?
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Old 12-26-2019, 12:22 PM   #2
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IDK. I'm struggling with that a bit myself today. I want to SH and I can't remember why I don't want to SH. I'll probably google some reasons why not to in a little while. I think it's got something to do with loving yourself. Like you would probably never hurt another person, so why it is okay to hurt yourself? IDK. HUGS Kit
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Old 12-26-2019, 12:53 PM   #3
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I think it's got something to do with loving yourself. Like you would probably never hurt another person, so why it is okay to hurt yourself? IDK. HUGS Kit
I don't really love myself but cutting does bring me relief. Am I proud that I do it? No. Does that mean I am going to stop? No.
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Yeah, cutting brings me relief too. *It works* almost all of the time. Which makes it difficult to stop. Then there are days like today when I can't remember why I want to stop. I'm trying to remember those reasons. Trying to make it real to me. Hang in there, my friend. You're not alone. HUGS Kit
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Old 12-26-2019, 03:20 PM   #5
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Because it starts arguments with my H is the only reason why I don't often.
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I have this same argument and compare it to other things that people do that is usually acceptable like drinking wine every day, smoking, using marijuana etc. My Y says it's because I'm being so violent with myself is why it's bad and because it can and has lead to infections and almost death for me.
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Old 12-27-2019, 09:52 AM   #7
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.....because it can and has lead to infections and almost death for me.
Yeah thats not going to happen with me. What I did Tuesday is almost gone now. The chance of infection is just as big as when I scratch an itch.
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''Life'' tells me I am ''useless'' and ''bad''...

maybe cutting is not so bad
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IDK but cutting ended me up in the hospital on a 5150 hold so that was bad.
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Cutting isn't really bad. The cutting itself is not the issue. The problem is that you're cutting instead of finding healthier ways to manage the deeper issues that you're going through.

Most of the therapists I've spoken to about cutting see it as something to wane off of and replace with habits that help you work with and face the underlying issue, rather than drowning them out with pain. These same therapists normally see all forms of escapism and distraction as almost as bad as cutting, because at the end of the day they aren't helping you move through or address your issues at all.

Not only that, but with some people, self-harm actually makes the underlying problems worse in the long-run despite providing an initial release because it makes those individuals more comfortable with hurting themselves. This is sometimes carried over psychologically, where these people become quicker to berate themselves or view themselves negatively because they have less inhibitions against attacking themselves. This isn't always the case, but it can be.

I'm also not a professional, so don't take my possibly distorted words from possibly underqualified or incorrect clinicians for granted.

(Edit: I should mention that I've never SI'd, but I've been fairly close with people who do. As such, I can't comment on how this lines up in my experience. From what I've seen, the people in my life do start getting better when they stop self-harming, though.)

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