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Old 12-12-2003, 10:32 PM #11
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I respond for three reasons: 1) Nobody else did 2) I wish to express my anger at your inflammatory post 3) I hope that you can be enlightened and change your negative views of people

Firstly, many of us on this site have harmed ourselves in ways like you expressed as being "bizarre" for reasons including the "cry for help" you noted, but also including reasons such as to numb emotional pain and to express through our actions the feelings for which we have no words. Some of us have outwardly expressed the "Hey, look what I did" attitude you write of to mask the inward feelings we often cannot admit to ourselves. Your question of what is wrong with these people therefore comes across as an accusation that there is something awful about every one of us who has ever self mutilated, though you pretend to be understanding of those of us on this discussion board.

Additionally, many cultures of the world across times have used body modification as a form of expression--you can call it the "Look what I did!" attitude if you like--such as the people in Biblical times who used circumcision to show their religious beliefs or jewelry to alter their appearance, much as you probably use nice clothes to say "Look at me!" in certain situations. If you are claiming that the majority of people from the majority of societies from the beginning of time are screwed up, then I would turn your question of what's wrong with these people back toward the person who seems to have the views out of sync with most everyone else.

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There are a couple of websites I have shared a couple of times here that have helpful information about SI and support for self injurers. I hope it's okay - I want to put those URLs here where they will stay at the top of the board for easy reference, so that we can find them easily. (I keep having to do a search and find them again myself after my computer crashed and I lost my bookmarks.)

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Hi,
My names Rebecca and thanks for having this room...
i wrote a poem when i was with mentalearth.com and from that point on had most of my treads deleted.It made me SI when i havent for a couple of weeks.
i repect the fact that on here you must use the trigger sign,but by putting restrictions on relaying feelings is feeding the belly of the beast

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I like being able to talk about how im feeling. At my house thats a big No-No. Everytime i try to say something its allways Shut up i dont want to hear about it or go away. So its nice to talk here. Plus its also helpful since im scared of crowds and since everyone is like a million miles asway from me i dont haft to worrie about this spreading around my town like wild fire. (i live in a small town full of gossip)

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Not being allowed to say what you feel (emotional invalidation) is a possible cause of self-injury. You need to be able to express yourself without being told that you can´t or that you are wrong. This is a place like that. I am glad you found us. Welcome.

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Self harm is something that should be broughten up ... So many ppl do it.. i am only 16 yrs old and cut myself...its hard...it seems like nobody out there wnats to say anything about it...its a seriuos issue..more seriuos then sex and drugs...i have this counlser who is soo ******...i havent seen her for over a month....its like i cant make anoter appt. because no one wants to b botheres...no wonder y kids today freaking cut themselves....Family and friends dont understand....its like cutting is contagious because lots of ppl do it...Or its like u need to pay to get help..its like "okay 300$ for this session"...cmon now....ppl r HURTING themselves and its a cry for help...DUH....i hate ppl!
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SELF harm isnt gooood at all...so many young beautiful ppl do it...it sux..i do it..but i am not sayin im beautiful...lol....idc if my friends n family say it...i dont think i am...many depressed self-mutialtors think that...well if anyone wants to chat u kno where i am
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Self injury sux....i hate myself for it....but i gotta live with it because i cant seem to get help...so F*** it all!
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It isn't just kids today who cut. I think it is interesting that the generations get seperated out when the same things have happened since time immemorial. I am 37 and I have self injured since I was 12. It is not a new thing. And I agree with you, it is wrong that we have to struggle with this alone if we can't afford the high price of therapy. It is unfair that my insurance refuses to pay for anymore sessions deeming that a person should only get 60 sessions in her lifetime. What is up with that? People are hurting.

I want to welcome you here. This is a place where you don't have to be alone. This is where we can come for peer support in our effort to let go of our need to Self injure. Here it is safe to say what we need to say and it is ok if we back slide and injure again. It is ok because we have all been there and we understand. We know that we don't deserve the pain we inflict on ourselves but we understand the need to do so. And together we are trying to learn how not too. It is a long journey and I am glad you have joined us.
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