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Default Nov 15, 2018 at 07:36 PM
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I'm finding that things are different with the holidays as I get older. My parents and my husband's parents have passed on, but our children will be home for Christmas. And I am inviting an elderly friend to our house, since she has no relatives left. Fewer presents to buy, since a lot of folks have died. What's happening with you as a senior during the holidays?
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Default Nov 15, 2018 at 07:49 PM
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I've got grandchildren to buy for now, I find the world of toys totally confusing. So many of them need access to computers or apps. Thank goodness for Legos.

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Default Nov 15, 2018 at 08:23 PM
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My wife & I gave up holidays many years ago. A holiday is just another day for us.
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Default Nov 17, 2018 at 07:21 AM
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At the risk of sounding like Scrooge, I am always relieved when January 2 arrives and this time of year passes. Most of our extended family (husband and me) have died. Sometimes we spend time with friends, sometimes just the two of us.

But like Skeezyks, it really is just another day for us.
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Default Nov 17, 2018 at 05:33 PM
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I miss the holidays with all the family together. Too Many holes in the family now. We seem to just drift.

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Default Nov 18, 2018 at 04:08 PM
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I spend a lot of holidays alone.

Which isn't such a bad thing I've come to find.

It saves me from having to pretend that all is merry and bright when the truth is most of the time it is not.

Remnants of all the trauma and abuse I grew up in, I reckon.

I've learned to accept it for what it is ... To enjoy what I can, and to not beat myself up for what I cannot.

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Default Nov 25, 2018 at 01:02 AM
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I haven't celebrated holidays since Dad's suicide. He was the glue that held us together for them. I do miss him more between Oct. and Jan. 2 Still hard to believe he's gone and that he took so much of my life with him. Looking forward to being with him again one day.

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