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Default Feb 09, 2019 at 01:36 PM
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I'm not sure how I got myself into the situation that a social evening out requires a "!". There was the broken foot situation, the broken heart, the fixing the garage roof, the 2 month volunteer job... and somehow every time I met someone I felt bored and withdrew back into internet land.

however, spring sprang and really it is utterly stupid to live in a big city and to feel that everyone's conversation is so utterly boring as to need to be avoided.

in the space of an hour I've found 3 discussion groups that seem as cynical and questioning as my own mind so I'm going to try one of them on Tuesday.

the "running and dancing" is semi-retired but daily exercise still occurs thank god. I don't think that I would have made it down off the garage roof yesterday without it.

in fact the garage roof had a role in kicking me to get out there. seems to me that replacing roofing on a not-very-secure roof in the middle of a violent storm is not the way I want my life to end up....

will see whether the other options are more attractive.
what am I going to wear now that I've been buried in two layers of thermals all winter?!
would you vote for "frumpy" or "freezing" .

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Glad you made it down off the roof safely. My personal vote would be for frumpy. Wow I can't imagine spring has sprung where you live. It's snowing today here where I live...

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So kind Skeezyks! Thanks for your vote, and your understanding . Perhaps I'm going to not-worry about what to wear because I don't want to end my evening feeling miserable on the walk home. I just feel guilty about the frumpiness of winter clothing around this time of year.

Coming down off roofs is trickier than getting up on them!! There is a moment when my legs seem to have become shorter than when I climbed up and the ladder is too far away. Perhaps it's just that going up my head is pointing in the right direction. I hate this but there is only me to do it and it's gotta be done.

I am pleased with having put a social event in my diary .

Wishing you a mellow evening yourself inside in the warm !!! Seems like you might be further north than my friends in Chicago, and they have the coldest weather ever this winter.

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and now because of you I've discovered Richard Desjardins les derniers humains…

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I vote for frumpy, too--and be careful!
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Thanks to you both I managed the dress code confidently and got myself to the social event almost on time - but it was a disaster because the venue was outrageously noisy and no one could hear each other speak... however,

I pulled myself back together... and am going on another social event in one week's time. Partly I think that the intention and the effort of "getting out there again" is important - I suppose I'm not letting myself get too excited about it this time though!

I totally hate social events when you can't even exchange names without shouting! There is a problem with that in my city because venues want to extort maximum money so organisers may get gazumped by a higher bidder at the last minute. There is no such thing as a free meeting space any more.

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Thanks to you both I managed the dress code confidently and got myself to the social event almost on time - but it was a disaster because the venue was outrageously noisy and no one could hear each other speak... however,

I pulled myself back together... and am planning another social event in one week's time. Partly I think that the intention and the effort of "getting out there again" is important - I suppose I'm not letting myself get too excited about it this time though!

I totally hate social events when you can't even exchange names without shouting! There is a problem with that in my city because venues extort maximum money so organisers may get gazumped by a higher bidder at the last minute. There is no such thing as a free meeting space any more.

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Please hold my hand!
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Okay, will do.
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Thank you Travelling Lady! I'm curious about you name.
It's helpful to have this thread as a reminder that I need/ love socialising but I forget to do it because often the results are discouraging.

I do know hundreds of people in my neighbourhood but that's different from actively getting dressed and going out for the evening... so the edges of my world shrink.

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I'm trying to do a bunch of traveling--especially bucket list places--hence the name.

I did have a name that focused on the fact that I have chronic pain conditions, but I decided to change it to a more positive one.
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ho! will your bucket list bring you to Europe, if so feel free to pm me.

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I'd like to travel to Europe some time in the future.
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