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Unhappy Feb 22, 2020 at 01:38 PM
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There is a local non-profit sort of near me that does offer rides for people who don't have anyone, and they are volunteers. But as mentioned below, it ain't cheap. Seems like this country really is for wealthy people, or someone wants it to be.

I forgot to say that I think it gets much harder for make new friends as one gets older and has been out of school a long time. And I recently found out someone whom I thought was a friend and actually cared about me doesn't care as much as I thought. I've already tried to keep expectations low and it seems I have to lower them even more.

I've never forgotten about how this doctor insisted I must have somebody that will pick me up. He just didn't want to accept that I didn't. I almost started to cry, realizing how so UNAWARE people are about how many people don't have anyone.

Macd123, I know you feel alone, and me too, so I wanted to say that in this sense, you're not alone.

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I've never forgotten about how this doctor insisted I must have somebody that will pick me up. He just didn't want to accept that I didn't. I almost started to cry, realizing how so UNAWARE people are about how many people don't have anyone.
Yes I have had that too. It is really disingenuous because most people I meet have no one.

I no longer believe that medical care doesn't believe you have no one, simply put, they don't care.

It is just another way to cut corners on expenses.

The "friend" is the perfect person to watch you. If this is farmed out to a stranger there is the possibility that the family will sue the stranger's company if something goes wrong. But most people won't sue the friend.
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Kind of a good thought... I have a friend (and when I say that I mean someone I know on facebook who lives 300+ miles from me) that constantly seems to be having medical procedures that at least to me seem unnecessary.

And I wonder sometimes if she will end up in worse health than me because she has a loving husband to care for her and thus... will have any procedure her doctor throws at her.

While I only have what I absolutely have to.
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Good point, Emily. I think we need to really think about surgery. I'm even having trouble with a "simple" knee replacement that I needed. Insurance has not approved a gastric bypass my doc wanted me to have, so I've decided not to get it.
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Recently I talked to a social worker at this non-profit that is supposed to help seniors find resources they need. I spent about an hour and half talking to her in person and filling out forms, giving them a lot of personal info. One of the questions was how much support I have in my life, no matter what kind (financial, emotional, etc). I put "not much".

That was about a month ago, and so far I never hear from her. I left her a message a week ago, then another yesterday. It doesn't feel good when people don't respond to me. It sends the message that I'm not important or they can't help with this issue.

Then SAY so. I don't know if this social worker is an incompetent one, wasn't in the office last week, is on vacation, or doesn't even work there anymore. Her extension doesn't have a personalized greeting or even her name on it. Maybe the turnover is high. It just says "The person at this extension is not available." If she was out, I wish someone filled in for her, but maybe since it's a non-profit, they have a skeleton crew. Non-profits are usually understaffed.

I know I'm not old enough for most of their services, but I'm trying to get whatever help I CAN get. And nobody bleeping calls me BACK.

Now I'm wondering if I wasted my time. It's a bit early to complain, and I'm not even sure if it's worth it. So hard to get help you need, as they put so many age restrictions and other criteria on it, then sometimes the people aren't competent on top of all of that. Or don't have the courtesy to communicate.


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I'am maybe the oldest here 80's real lucky to have a younger wife high IQ.When I need to be driven its fine the uro dr is coming up have lived with autism and incontinence for alone time.
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