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Dec 13, 2012 at 04:00 PM
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Hi, I have general anxiety and I have tried different ways of relaxing, but what seems to work best for me is masturbation. However, I am concern because I find that it can also triggers my anxiety symptoms, like a tension in my head and heart palpitations. The palpitations happens afterwards. Has anyone ever experience such symptoms during/after masturbating?
A little history: I am no newbie to masturbating, I have a long history of it. Masturbating does not hinder me having sex with my wife. I love having sex with her. I have no interest in having sex with other people. But I do know I need a little extra sometimes. I got to handle business when she is not in the mood. It just occurred to me, that I don't have the symptoms when having sex. |
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Dec 14, 2012 at 08:45 AM
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This could be way off base, this is just a hypothesis. Maybe because you are focusing soully on you when you masturbate, you are more aware of the anxiety symptoms that you are experiencing? Or they seem stronger because when you are having sex, you are also focused on your wife. I don't know? Just a thought. (I tend to notice my heart range change/it beats way harder than I would normally notice when I am alone.)
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Dec 14, 2012 at 05:52 PM
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Ok, it seems that masturbation might NOT be the route for me.  Thanks AngelWolf3 |
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Dec 15, 2012 at 12:33 AM
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Do you experience any guilt or shame with respect to masturbation?
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Dec 15, 2012 at 01:24 AM
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My boyfriend will not engage in anything sexual when he even has the slightest headache because it exacerbates it, and makes his head hurt worse. I think it has to do with blood pressure.
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Dec 15, 2012 at 03:21 PM
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 . I workout at the gym regularly. I also love to run. But those activities don't relax me at all, if anything I am more pumped. I can do a half marathon, and still have enough energy to have sex later that night. My wife don't get how I can have so much energy at times.I don't smoke, drink alcohol, or do any drugs. I am very health conscious. |
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Dec 15, 2012 at 03:23 PM
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Dec 15, 2012 at 08:02 PM
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i masterbate almost everyday, but i do it watching porn , just once a day, stress reliever, i dont see anything wrong with it, but i dont have a girlfriend.
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Dec 15, 2012 at 08:29 PM
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Masturbation is a stress release. Why feel guilt or give it up. Suppressing that urge will take some doing (aren't men born w a n k i n g ?) and the stress will build up. Men and women were designed to be sexual, masturbation is part of that. Men in general seem to do it more than women in my view, but we do it nearly, if not as much. My bf tells me every morning he is thinking of me, as he takes care of his morning glory, and again at night, he's usually at it again. It is part of our sex lives and not instead of, sex with our partners. A harmless pleasure, to be enjoyed, not suppressed.
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Jan 02, 2013 at 02:27 PM
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What Angel said is fact, your sympathetic nervous system while thinking about your woman, tangles with your gratification desires- no it's not bad - that's what I call being passionate
 While masturbating, it is just yousex is complex it involves a lot of things I love that feeling |
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Jan 05, 2013 at 10:07 AM
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I do not know much about this topic actually, however I would say I think that masturbation might have an emotional effect if you are emotionally depressed, or insecure. On the other hand however having sex with your wife, gives you to intimately understand that you are loved, wanted and supported. And somehow brings comfort, which masturbation rarely brings!! Another aspect is a probable unconscious trigger that would possibly give you an impression that you are "being unfaithful" as you are not with "her"(is not always true). I understand your type of stress as a possible actually indicative of a disturbing event in the past which lead to an an emotional insecurity, trying to express itself through excessive sex. You must deal with the little hurt child in you who is crying out for emotional support. Best Wishes, The Friend.
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Mar 01, 2013 at 12:29 AM
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Mar 01, 2013 at 09:32 PM
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masturbation can make you feel guilty if you do it to excess. besides, it changes your entire mood later during that day. Teh more guilty you feel about it, the worse it gets. I advise you to not be in closed spaces but in public areas so that everyone can see you and know what you're doing.
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Mar 01, 2013 at 10:08 PM
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Masturbation cannot make anyone feel guilty. It can relieve stress or cause headaches or cause a wide range of other PHYSIOLOGICAL reactions, and give joy or tire you or make you sleepy etc but it cannot make you feel guilty. It does not have that kind of power. The only thing that can make you feel guilty is your mind.
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Mar 01, 2013 at 10:40 PM
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are there specific medications that can cause you to become more sexual than you should?
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In general, if you think that you can develop a drug that makes people more sexual, you should drop everything you have been doing and start visiting venture capitalists to get funding. Do invite me to sit on your board, please. |
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Mar 01, 2013 at 11:07 PM
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i take sudogest to clear my sinuses and every time i do, i take up the old habit again.
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Is. Sudogest brand or generic?
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Mar 01, 2013 at 11:11 PM
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what do you mean by that?
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Mar 01, 2013 at 11:13 PM
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i think it might have been the prozac or ritalin that i took several years ago. i'm blaming it totally on that. if they're the reasons why i'm doing what i'm doing now, then obviously that's it.
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